I am 25 years old and am in my first real relationship with the most amasing person in the world, he is caring and treats me like a princess, a real gentleman,

A month or so we stated fooling around. We did not have sex but I know that I really want to with him I have never had sex before and I have a lot of fears and questions, I think that this is something I am ready for and I know I want to do it.

I know all about how it is done and think I know what to expect, but I am scared about a few things,

How it will feel. I am scared it will hurt and that it will be really awkward, and I will hate it

What will happen, what to expect

How I will feel after, will I hurt for a few days? What will I feel during sex

I know these are silly question but I am the type of person who really has to plan and know what to expect, or I get overwhemed, this being wrong has never crossed my mind I know I am ready but I am just hoping to fill in the blanks and squash my fears

Any tips, suggestions, warning, stories and advice would be a great help

Thanks

It may and it can be, that is one of the things that makes it the first time.

Make sure he understands and stops if you ask him.

No same for everyone

Take it slow.. talk with him about it.. if you are turned on.. then it should be painless and full of pleasure.. use a lubricant if you like.. this will help with the actual act.. Good Luck

It might hurt, being that it's your first time. The first time might be awkward but if you feel the way you do about him and you're ready you won't hate it. Just relax and if you're uncomfortable with something, let him know. Keep the lines of communication open.

Everyone's first time is different, but I can tell you about mine.

It was over way faster then I thought it would be and nothing like the movies... or the x rated movies.

It hurt a little bit during but not the entire time and I was sore a few days after. It felt like pulled a muscle in my groin or something. And there wasn't much bleeding.

I wouldn't expect much... No ones first time is good. Especially for girls.

I can say it did make me feel a lot closer to my boyfriend but too bad I can't say he felt a lot closer to me.

Be careful, don't expect a man to want to be with you now forever just cause they took your virginity. Have sex because you want to. Don't do it for anyone else or you'll be let down.

If you are turned on, and you want to have sex then you won't hate it. It will more than likely hurt though. As you know everyone's first time is different. For me, it hurt a lot the first time, I was bleeding quiet a bit after and I was sore for a few days. You might be different though. It's really hard to explain what sex feels like the first time. It feels like your tight, and like you're being poked by him and it turns you on but at the sametime it hurts. I don't really know how to explain it that's the best I can do lol.

MAKE SURE you tell your boyfriend to go slow, because if he just rams it in there it's going to hurt you a lot. Goodluck and remember to try and relax because the more you worry the more it'll hurt because you're tensed up.

I honestly hope you are accurately depicting your age.

Best to get a book aimed at teenagers(no matter what your age) that educates a person about sex. Easy to read and understand and full of answers to your questions. Hopefully, great illustrations.

Go to Barnes and Noble bookstore and search for just the right book. :)

I'm going to take a slightly different track on this.

If you haven't had sex until now, the question is why? Having you been waiting for marriage? If so, I wouldn't give up that core value and if your boyfriend is the great man you say he is, I am sure he will wait too and honor your commitment to yourself.

Ask yourself, if this man doesn't marry me will I regret having slept with him; will I be able to give the gift of my first intimate contact to my husband? If the marriage part doesn't matter to you, then ask yourself if he leaves me will I regret having slept with him?

If you want to have sex for you, not for him, and you aren't compromising any commitments you've made to yourself then the final question is this the man you want to have your first sexual experience with?

Please proceed with caution because when I was a young man I was amazing and caring too, that was until I finally slept with my girlfriend and then things changed and I moved on. I was always caring, even when saying my goodbyes. Yes, I was a bastard and hurt many women along the way.

I don't know how long you've been seeing him, but would it hurt to wait a while longer to see if he sticks around if there is no sex?

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I honestly hope you are accurately depicting your age.

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I am we don't all start at 13 :)

You may be a little sore and penetration may hurt a tad.It helps to use some sort of lubrication.
I don't know many women who truly enjoyed their first time but did enjoy the physical contact and the kissing and so forth.
It gets better with practice.Your lover needs to be patient and understanding and you both need to be verbally open about what feels good and understand that a great sexual relationship takes time.
Making love is not all about penetration but an expression of love,that's what makes it special!

Mine was great! I pretty much pounced on him a few minutes later when he got it up again (mmm... I still do that a lot) I was really sore the next day though, unfortunately.

He'd spent a LOT of time making sure I was aroused and we tried penetration in a couple positions (just a bit in to see how it felt) until we found the easiest one. Once he was in and I got more aroused, I felt too good to notice any discomfort :)

Just easy does it, that's all I have to say. The piledriving can wait!