Me and my Ex- boyfriend have been going out for about a year. It was a very unhealthy relationship. By saying that... I'll simply explain that he Cheated on me, Lied to me, Ditched me for his bar friend's, Called me a immature little girl, and that I'm only a child with no adult mentality. He use to call me even worse thing's. He also said that no one will want to be with me. And that my attitude sucks. It hurt's what he said. Nothing is true. I mean I get upset, but everyone would right? I have the right to. I was also scared because

He drink's a lot. But a few months back. He got into a major car accident. That he said he needed to change that.. So he did for a little bit. He said he would be good to me. He wanted me back so much. So I said we will see how it goes... I need some time.. to earn trust for you, and we need to work at it... So he was good for a bit. Then me and him got into a huge argument. And he ran off to a christmas party that he said he would'nt go to, because I ddint want him going. Reason being is because This girl he was clearly having feelings towards , first reason being we broke up, well She was there.

Now he right's rude thing's in his msn name,. and then change's it to nice thing's like he misses me.

I also received God into my life recently, and I've been pushing him away. Because of my Ex..
I keep on thinking past not present.

That relationship is just ugly. He calls you names, you restrict him from going to places. I understand you were jealous and didn't want him around the girl, but putting a leash on him and telling him you couldn't go is a bit harsh. If any of my girlfriends told me I couldn't go to a party because some girl there is interested in me, well, then I would think she doesn't trust me. In your case, he cheated on you, so rightfully so, but still, you need that trust.

You obviously know that this isn't working out for you, and you want to get over him. It's simple. Delete him from fbook, msn, myspace, etc. Don't look at his away messages... don't look at his life. Just simply focus on your life and where your life is headed.

Geez, he was a horrible person.

Besides that, here are a few things to keep your mind off your ex boyfriend.

1. Read
2. Yoga
3. Go to the Gym
4. Chess
5. Spend time with family.
6. Get involved in new activities
7. Get a new hobby
8. Write in a journal
9. Draw
10. Paint
11. Post on this website to help others
12. MOVE ON

What's going on!?

First of all Happy Holidays!

All right, that first paragraph is so brutal to read, then to here you going back to him, that's terrible, no offense, I understand emotions get the best of you sometimes but it's okay I'm not judging you at all, just need you to realize that this isn't the person you want, nor does he deserve you at all.

I do believe people change though, it's more of maturing rather then anything else, but I don't see any difference if after one argument he runs back to his old ways, and to see some other female... eh, get yourself away from this individual and stop settling for something you know that is already there...

Get out into the world and find someone who will treat you with the same respect you have for them, and you'll find it... but not until you start looking!

Yours Truly,
LCM

Disappear from his life, and read the stickies at the beginning of this forum, that's a start, and love yourself enough to look forward at all the good things you can do, and enjoy with your freedom from loser boy.

Cry if you must, but don't waste a lot of tears on this jerk, as there is a lot of good things in the world, to get involved with.

Good Luck!

Either be a doormat and let him continue to walk all over you or move on, become a stronger person and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

The power is in your hands, stay, or go.

This isn't a healthy relationship, and no, he's not going to change, that's a pipe dream. No women can change a man to suit her, you either accept him, lumps and all, or you let him go.

It's time to move on, go to No contact and concentrate on yourself for a while.

Good luck.

Reading you story made me realize so much yet so little. Similary if you read my story you would know that I am in the same boat as u. I know how you feel... u can only tell and related to something after or while you yourself experience it. The name calling and telling about you won't go anywhere in life... OMG! I have heard it all... I lost my confident, self esteem because of this. Sometimes I wonder how can the guy not care and I dwell on the good times... it feels like head and heart is pulling in different directions and all you can do it cry... Honesltly I don't know what to tell you and how to help because I need help myself and I am in the same situation... but I can just related to your story and I know how the feeling is... something that U just can't explain something's and all you do is cry and think what's wrong wit me...

Please read my survival guide and please give me three YELLS:

Hip hip hooo-rayyy!!
Hip hip hooo-rayyy!!
Hip hip hooo-rayyy!!

You are free of that chump! Take 4 months off and your brain will wake up one morning and just go: THANK GOD!

I DO NOT FORESEE good things for him. Good things only happen when we remove a cancer. Do you want to find happiness? Then trust me, give it time. And live in a healthy mental place and you'll bloom!

Be a hero. Forget the zero.

I am also going through the same situation and today is the day that IO broke up with him. I am reading averything I can on positive thinking and it is helping so much. I am not crying and I am actually enrolling in Tango classes today. I am seeing clearer and I know for a fact that I will find a person that cares about themselves enough to care about me.