Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 month and he is 14 1/2 and I am 15 and we have been talking about sex for like 6 months but I'm worried about what might happen after to our relationship and I have a couple other questions uhh will it hurt, wll I bleed, will he change his thoughts towards me uhhh I have used a dildo and it didn't hurt and also he has fingered me and he tried to fist me but when he go to his knuckles it hurt too much so from that do you thuiink I will bleed or if it will hurt... thanks

There's a much more important question that has to be answered before you have sex. Are you ready to be a mommy? Is he ready to be a daddy?

Every single time that you have sex there is a chance that you will become pregnant. Remember that.

You don't need to be having sex until you are financially, emotionally, and physically ready to have a baby.

NO MATTER WHAT AGE YOU ARE.

Don't do it, I have a feeling you're a freshman, so don't do it
OK, I've fingered a few of my gfs, but that's it, and that's all I was planning on doing, not sex
Your not old enough, you may think you are, but you aren't, just don't do it

The fist... thing is really creepy for someone your age. Where do you get that from?

You should be concentrating on how to kiss... not getting fisted.. that is creepy!

I highly doubt that you are a virgin (hymen intact) after the dildos and fists and such.I doubt a penis would be painful for you as you have already had penetration of a sort.

You need to decide when you are ready on your own but I would tell you this... a guy will tell you anything to get in your pants and he may very well tell all his friends and then you get a reputation that you will have to survive all through high school.

Don't ever let a guy push you into anything.if he cares about you he will respect you and your wishes.

There is no truly*safe sex* every method fails sometimes so be prepared for parenthood or an STD or worse.

I understand you have sexual urges but you must be prudent.

Don't be telling her those things, just don't do it, that's all, don't do it don't do it don't do it, EDITED FOR LANGUAGE, that's it, doooonnnt, doooooo, iiiittt

Fisting at 15 is pretty bold. Yes, I've done it up to the wrist, but it took a long long time to get there.

Like others here, I agree that postponing intercourse is a very wise move until you are ready on all fronts: emotionaly, financially and psychologically ready as well as knowing how both parts are supposed to work and have been evaluated medically. Birth control and a condom are essential.

To add to this, first you are not ready and mature enough. And of course at this age you both could be put in detention by the Juv courts if they determine your parents were not properly supervising you to allow this to happen.

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Originally Posted by midget8932

me and my boyfriend have been goign out for 9 month and he is 14 1/2 and i am 15 and we have been talking about sex for like 6 months but im worried about what might happen after to our relationship and i have a couple other questions uhh will it hurt, wll i bleed, will he change his thoughts towards me uhhh i have used a dildo and it didnt hurt and also he has fingered me and he tried to fist me but when he go to his knuckles it hurt to much so from that do you thuiink i will bleed or if it will hurt.... thanks

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Hi midget8932

This is a major problem for people of your age and I'm sure a lot of people will be for all out sex and some will be what until your married.

First off if you are not ready to be doing sexual things with your partner then hold off and do not do them, unless you feel that both of you really want to then wait, if a guy or a girl is not willing to wait because there ready and your not then it is not worth being in that relationship because that person want you for sex and nothing else.

If you do have sex, just make sure that it is safe sex useControseptives and also rememeber that even these are not 100% fool proof and baby's can still come along.

The only safe option if your not willing or ready to be a parent yet is wait, if the other person loves you and respects you then they should go a long with your wises.

I think you should wait on the sex part, but should you consider moving forward. Put on some protection - this is very important. Or it could ruin your life (condoms)

All right listen I am 16 and I am grade 11, at my high school there are about 10 girls I know that are in grade 9 (13 or 14) and they are either pregnant or have a baby already. If you want to have sex in my opinion I don't think you should because you could end up getting pregnant and lose your virginity. Its not worth it girl!! you also have to think about what your parents will say when they find out... one of my friends got pregnant and her parents through her out of the house and she was your age. And it will hurt if you have sex.

So think of the consequences, think of your parents, think about what people will say if they find out.

First of all, I think you and him are both too young, you guys have a whole life ahead of you and it may be halted due to an STD or pregnancy. Second of all, sex is very sacred and something you do with someone you love, personally I think that people your age don't exactly grasp the *real* concept of love, don't just "do it" because you two are horny... figure out things you can do together now, and hold off sex for a while.

I'm going to tell you my story because I DON'T want you to have sex.


Sex WILL ruin your relationship!

I'm sixteen years old. I dated my ex girlfriend for around 17 months. We were sexually active past the year mark. Ever since then whenever we had alone time that's what it was all about, SEX. Trust me, LOVE is much more then sex. It'll compromise your relationship and if you two end up breaking up, which is very likely, it'll be much harder on you to move on. God knows how much I want to take back what I did, but I can't. Learn from my mistakes and DON'T do it.

Chery, how much I do wish we could. Please, please, please. Don't make this mistake!

Sex is more complicated than the movies make it sound. You are 15. You can get pregnant and every birth control has a flaw that is often ignored. Such as, it has to be stored at the proper conditions/used the proper way to be effective which most of the time people don't do (I'd say a good 90%)

Would you tell you're parents? Can you handle the possibility of you getting pregnant? Can you support the kid? How would your boyfriend be at being a dad? What if you get sick? Can you go to the doctor and get tested yearly for stds?

And with all this added it hurts relationships and marriages far more than it helps