Hello,

Im 20 and Im single. I suffer from depression and very low self esteem. Im nearly convinced that I will be single all my life and that I'll never get a girl friend.

I don't know how some guys pull it off with chicks one after the other. Here I am, trying to get anything and there are guys who date decent girls one after another. This depresses me.

Is this common with single adults? Or am I a bit too obsessed with this?
Should I just move on and concentrate on my career/education/work and think about this once I get a job..

Please help

Hey man I really under stand how you feel it happens with every men in the world so it's depend on you to go for it or not , first you have to start with yourself and sec are you shy guy then don't be girls don't eat people so wear nice clothes try to look women eyes all the time learn from the movies the techniques to filirt with girl or chatting with them be always honstly and don't fall in love fast because that will hurt you later be passion all the time because unitll you will find one , hold the emotion called love that thing it's killer I mean it will control you in your stutues so start with any place with girls if your in school start the one you like and talk to her or in the work any place or in the libery man don't be shy if you are shy you won't get any thing

You're only 20, you have barely begun to live. When you believe you will never get a girlfriend you subconsciously do things to sabotage yourself. You need to change the way you think and develop a positive attitude. Nobody wants to be around someone who mopes around all the time saying "I'm such a loser". Get out there and be friendly, smile at people, strike up conversations, enjoy life. People who are cheerful attract others, cheerfulness is contagious. Remember most of the people you meet on the street you will never see again so that's a good place to practice cheerful. Make it a point to brighten one person's day with a smile and a kind word every day even if it's just someone at a fast food joint. Developing the ability to make other people smile will attract people to you.
Ber

Dating isn't what life is all about and it certainly doesn't just waltz itself into your life. You have to put yourself out there. Try to being more social and going places where you can meet people. There are millions of people out there who feel the same way you do. There's got to be a girl for you. You just have to look for her. But just remember there's more to life than having a girlfriend

Thank you all for that, Ill try and consider that..

Hi, blue_st4r!

You've already received some great advice here! Would you mind sharing something about what your interests and abilities are, please?

Thanks!

Sports, TV.. music. That's about it. I think.

What is it about music that you're into, please?

Thanks!