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  • Dec 22, 2008, 05:44 PM
    xWillx
    We can't be together but we love each other
    Basically over the past couple of months me and this girl have been going out secretly and I haven't even told my friends, the reason for us going out secretly was because of her best friend (who I had been out with in the past). We were fine till last Saturday my friend found out and told her best friend and its split us, she said "we can't be together anymore because I don't want to ruin my friendship", we love each other and it has been so hard for me and no one has really given me any support or help with the situation, I have been so depressed these past couple of days I just want to curl up and die ><

    Got any advice?
  • Dec 22, 2008, 06:01 PM
    TrueFaith

    I'm sorry but that's crap
    Sounds like a lot of game playing

    If she loved you

    She would not care who knew or who didn't know.

    And if she had real friends they would support her actions.

    And her blaming the break up on a slip secret

    Then the bloody reltionship should not have started on ONE!!
  • Dec 22, 2008, 06:13 PM
    Kia

    I don't think that is necessarily true. There is an unwritten rule that friends ( this is for women) don't date their friend's exes. Its just wrong. Now some chicks are scandalous and don't care, but it would probably ruin the relationship between friends. I would think the damage is already done, but maybe not. Maybe she really feels bad. But if she's really in love she probably won't be able to stay away, so at some point one person is going to lose. I don't know how old you are but if you are younger, I think she will probably chose to be loyal to her friends. If you are an adult, I think she will find a way to talk to her friend, and try to work things out because she is in love with you.
    Just my 2 cents...
  • Dec 22, 2008, 06:23 PM
    TrueFaith

    Kia sod off with that

    If she was any typ of a friend
    She would not have DATED HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE!

    Simple as that..

    You speak of loyal.. well she started a relationship! In secret..
    Behind her so called best friends back?

    Now its out in the open she runs off..

    Pfff!

    I think they are Young and that is the main problem.

    My view is that this guy should move on
    It was game play from the start
    And a silly way to enter into a relationship
  • Dec 22, 2008, 06:26 PM
    talaniman

    You may be in love ,but she wants a friendship, more than she wants your love. That simple, leave them both alone, and move on.

    Secret lovers is a good song, but its lousy for a relationship. Love doesn't have to sneak around, and you were bound to be caught sooner or later.
  • Dec 22, 2008, 06:33 PM
    friend4u178

    I would say that you probably think a lot more of this than she does.

    True love needs no sneaking around.

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