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My girl and I have been together for 15 months and she's thinking of breaking up with me. One night she went to a party and when she came back she thought I was mas(I wasn't) and now she thinks io don't trust her, which I do. I can't sleep and I have a throwing up feeling all the time, I love this girl and I don't want to lose her. I'm a little clingy when she gets upset or mad at me , I really love this girl and need help please...
COMMUNICATE with each other!! You guys seriously need to sit down, talk about the issues, and work it out, otherwise, jump to the next possible solution... break up.
What do I do when the girl I love thinks I can't trust her and is now thinking of breaking up with me, but I love her and don't want her to
Why does she think you can't trust her? Does she feel crowded? Need some more info.
She went to a party one night and when she came back she thought I was mad but I wasn't and she thought I didn't trust her when she went the party
How were you feeling when she came back from the party? You can be honest here, since no one knows you.
I was tired from shopping all day with her and I was a little down because she got to go out and I didn't
Well no, you need to talk to her obviously, what reasons are there for her to feel you don't trust her? I doubt she would break up with you just for that unless it seems to her you are acting quite paranoid and possibly 'clingy'. Just ask her what's wrong and tell her you like her a lot and are willing to change/ 'work on it' and if it is because you are being paranoid or clingy then give her room or it will never work...
You need to give a little more info.
Okay. So you were more feeling left out than distrustful. It sounds like a misunderstanding. It also sounds like she is supersensitive to this issue.
I would give her some time to cool off, then ask her to tell you how she felt when she got back and really let her know you are listening. Then when she feels like she's been heard, you can explain again that you were not distrustful, more envious and you are sorry for being negative when she got back. Hopefully, she can open up and let you know why she reacted so strongly to this. It's important that you listen to her first before you justify yourself.
Good luck!
But when she says to me"i need to think about our relationship" it scares me and the other day she also told me that she also had feeling for someone else and now I djust don't no what to do
It maybe seems like she is making up some sort of excuse to break up. The way she is acting comes across as quite childish. Talk to her, listen to everything she has to say just tell her everything you are feeling if you love her you should be able to. I am not jumping to conclusions but she could possibly (THIS IS ONLY A POSSIBLILITY) she could already be seeing someone and is reflecting her 'negativity' on you by saying you are can't trust her as she may feel guilty... I hope this makes some sense... To me the way she is acting is a little out of order and she should tell you the truth. Now act calm relaxed, positive and willing to let her speak. However I personally don't think she is worth it if she is having other feelings and is generally acting a little 'bizare'. (But talk to her but don't be mean/judgemental just be mature and relaxed about it all and hopefully she will open up a bit)
How old are you?
19
Every girl is different, there is no one thing to say. Give us some more info on you relationship and why do you think she is going to break up with you and maybe we can help you more.
Well um.. she thinks I don't trust her which I do and we do have little fights over nothing and sometimes one of them will build up and be really bad
Ok and what are her reasons for you not trusting her? If it where little fights over nothing then you wouldn't have posted this thread... obviously you are concerned so please elaborate a bit so we can accurately assist you. Is it over other males? Going out? What are the fights about? Is there a pattern? How long have you dated your girlfriend? Do you two have anything in common? Or is the basis of your fights related to difference of opinions? To what extent of seriousness is your relationship? What is the main issue around the un-trustworthiness from your position?Quote:
Originally Posted by R1U1S1T1Y1
Well me and my girl have been going out for 15 months now and the fights are about stupid little things that we disagree on and sometimes I don't say the right things and I make it worse, I live about 20 nminutes away from her and cause of school and everything I can only see her on the weekends, when we don't fight we have an awesome time. Its just I think I can't say the right things and its really messing things up with us and the other night she thought I didn't trust her because she came back from a party and she thought I was mad but I wasn't and last nigh she said that she also had feelings for someone else which I don't no is true or but it makes me scared. I really love this girl and I don't want to lose her
Ahh, well she said she may have feelings for someone else and this may be true. Has she officially broken it off? You both sound very, very young and love is not the term you should be using after 15 months but rather you care a great deal and have serious interest in her... possibly evolving to love in the future. Thing is if you two have not a lot in common many disagreements can occur. You of course must mind your temper and value her difference of opinion. If she is difficult then I suggest you let it go... if you are putting out more energy into the relationship then you have another dilemma. You can start by telling her how you truly feel and apologize for any wrongdoing you have made in the relationship and involve her by asking how you could improve on being a better boyfriend. Embrace yourself for hearing things you don't want to (keep an open mind and don't become angry... let her talk) and make a promise to her and yourself to start making changes or compromises and how you intend to carry it out.Quote:
Originally Posted by R1U1S1T1Y1
If someone wants to break up with you
There is nothing you can do to change there mind. And why would you want to?
If someone does not want to be with you. Why waist your time on them
But she says she still has feelings for me and I don't want to lose her
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