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  • Dec 20, 2008, 01:30 PM
    aj2234
    Found Out girl friend’s ex- boy friend came to see her
    Found Out girl friend’s ex- boy friend came to see her, and she spent time with him, She tell’s
    Me she is still crazy about me, and likes me a lot, so I told her I will give her a few day’s
    To see what she wants. Well, we ended up spending that whole 5 day’s together. Then on that
    Friday she said, she need’s 3 days for space. She called 2 times after the three day’s have been up.
    I was busy at work and missed her call’s. Tried to call her back and does not answer. In her voicemailit said she had to work that night in till 10:30. Well I wanted to see her, so drove to her house and the time she was to be at work her car was still at home. Well that upset me so I called her and left something's on her voicemail, that I should have not said. Now she has been emailing me every night saying she is upset about the voicemail’s and that’s why she has not called. Told her I was sorry. She say’s she still needs space, that she miss me and still cares a lot about me. So, do I respond to her emails or ignore for awhile? So she can start to want me back
    By not responding to her? This hurts really bad! I want to know
    What to do, Thanks Lance
  • Dec 20, 2008, 01:44 PM
    Rohin Arora

    Hello Dear

    Well Relations are always complex things and they get more complex if you keep thinking about them.

    I will say please start responding her.you might have heard that
    "If you love something set it free.If it comes back to you it is yours but if it doesnt,It Never Was"

    But I don't believe in this.Instead I say

    "If you love something,set it free.If it comes back to you,it is yours but if it doesnt,search it and Make It Yours."

    So main point is whether you love her or not,if you do,show it to her.
    Its quite possible for a person to be in love with two persons at the same time.And if she is confused,it means she loves you too and can't leave you.
    So I will say go to her,be polite to her more than before.show her that you care for her,love her more than he does.
    And she will be yours for the rest of your life.

    All The Best.
  • Dec 20, 2008, 02:08 PM
    N0help4u

    Do not get angry and leave negative messages that only gives them a reason to put it back on you why they are not contacting you.
    Like they are not calling
    You have reason to believe they are not calling because you see they are lying. You call them on it and leave a mean message.
    NOW even though they had NO intention of calling you anyway they use your message as an excuse.

    When you talk to her tell her how you feel, where you would like to see the relationship go and then tell her it is up to her but you do not want to be left dangling on a string of hope.

    It sounds to me like she is not being all that honest with you and that maybe she has made her decision but can't face up to telling you.

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