I'm even starting to doubt myself, who's right? Me or him?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. We haven't officially made the plunge in living together but he spends a lot of time over at my house. He sleeps over, sometimes we just hangout, then he'll go home. I have three kids from my previous relationship and he helps me out a lot with them as well. All in all he is a very good guy. He helps out with the bills (even though he hasn't moved in) and he is a great father with his own kids who I see about ever other weekend. Now here is the issue. My parents have gone through this ugly divorce and my mother has been forced out of her apartment because my dad wasn't paying the court appointed alimony my mom was entitled to. Since she wasn't getting her funds on time or sometimes at all she had to give up her apartment. My mom has been living with her elderly mom (my grandmother), who isn't the most pleasant old lady in the world. My mom has been really depressed and she has shown up at my door numerous times with her duffel bag to spend a couple days to cool off. I don't mind having my mom around and I feel like I'm the only one she can turn to right now. Her relationship with her only living sister is rocky and she has no other family. I pretty much feel stuck. Like my back is against the wall. My boyfriend doesn't like it when my mom sleeps over. He says she is being selfish and intrusive. He wishes she wouldn't sleep over so often and at least have the courtesy to call before coming. I totally understand that but like I said I feel like my back is against the wall. If I try to talk with my mother she will take it totally out of proportion and she'll be mad at me. She'll take it as if I don't want her to come over at all and she'll more then likely accuse me of choosing my boyfriend over her. Except this is really ruining my relationship. Judging by all the tension, I feel things are really going to get bad over at my grandmothers house and my mom will probably get kicked out. If that happens I can't just allow my mom to go to a shelter. What am I suppose to do! Lose my relationship with my mom ( the only family I really have left) or lose my boyfriend. He has made it very clear, if mom moves in... he moves out! What is your opinion? What would you do in my shoes?