I think I am finally over my boyfriend of the past 7 months. I kept going right back to him but he is so set in his ways and can't see anything he is doing wrong to change it. He puts everything back on me as my fault. He kept playing games like saying 'We both do our thing and then when we are done we have the rest of the evening together. But he would expect me to sit home wondering when he was going to come by and spend the evening with me. Often he never did. Then when I wouldn't wait around for him, he would say he came by but I wasn't home to try and guilt me into staying home waiting for him.
I kept trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and being hopeful but he keeps following the same pattern, but he just doesn't get it. I am finally ready to just keep busy and not here when he comes by.
I think I am finally over him or at least in the final stages of being over him.
I have known him for 17 years so I doubt I can handle no contact but I think that my keep going back to him has me not wanting to be a glutton for punishment any more so I should be okay as long as I keep busy to keep my mind off him.
My kids tell me that I would be a bad choice to take to pick out a car because I always wind up with junk. I tell them that that makes me better at picking out a good car because now I know what not to buy. I think the same is true with guys. The more I know about them the more I know what to avoid. But just like I can never find a good car in my price range, I can't find a decent guy. I think I will stick with driving and forget having a boyfriend.
No question really just needed to rant.
Of course you can comment with there being no question

Or let your kids hook you up!!

LOL I can't imagine what they would come up with!
I don't even think I would want to go there!

Great! Work!

I'm really happy for you. What a nice read!
Its funny how we get to a stage and its like

Click! There we go.

I mean no one can tell anyone how they should feel.

But reading your post was very nice.

Its nice to get game players out of your life.
I have had too much of that! :(

I think you made a wise choice when you stopped playing games with your emotions by being on and off again. It is great when you could reflect back on the past and realize when someone wasn't any good for you. Not settling is always good.

They're decent guys out there, they're just hard to find. Sometimes you've to go through a few knuckle heads before you find your match but when you do you would see that it was all worth the wait.

Again, good for you!

Are you GOAL SETTING?? OMG Good for you!

You have set the table AND EATING FROM IT TOO?

You made a decision(and no,NC probably isn't in the works... yet!)Maybe he'll get the picture and leave you alone(if this is your intention.)

You know,I was up there in the crest and I thought my life was over,that I would never achieve the freedom I saw others having,that my goals were only a passing fancy,things others could have and do,but were foreign to me.(being in the forest and not seeing the trees)

I stopped setting goals(it took 3 years to understand why)

When life dealt me a good hand,I got 'lucky' I began to do what the 'others' were doing and moved on.

Sounds like you are moving on too.On to the next step in you life,good for you.

I hope you stick around in here,your thoughts and information are always a compliment to the others(and my) posts and working with an intelligent woman is a very nice thing indeed.

Hope this 'answers your question'... :p(like there was one... :)

Ken

Hey! Good for you! Its nice isn't it? To get to that point where you can just let it go and lower your shoulders and move on :D

I'm really happy for you! Good job :)

Hehe game players... tsk tsk tsk, who needs 'em? :)