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  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:22 PM
    sasha123
    My boyfriend don't do foreplay and I need it .
    My boyfriend of 5 years go straight to the point when making love I need foreplay before and after especially after.. when I tell him he tells me your still a baby for him foreplay means to cuddle me how can I make him change his mind?
  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:24 PM
    Eileen1218

    Just flat out and tell him what it means.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:25 PM
    J_9
    How old are the two of you?
  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:43 PM
    450donn

    Maybe if he is that dense you should consider moving on to someone who actually cares for you and your needs before his.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:03 PM
    smoothy

    He's a jerk... tell him no touchy, touchy without some licky, licky first. And stick to it.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:04 PM
    sasha123

    Im25 and he is 25 too 6 months younger though I'm not consider leaving him cause I love him...
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:05 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    It is easy, he gets no sex until you are ready. I can't see any problem except you don't know how to say no.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:06 PM
    sasha123
    He does the licky licky part,and quite often I'm most speaking about the touching I like him when he touches me hair legs ecc
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:45 PM
    talaniman

    Grab him by his ears, and tell him do it right, or not at all.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 02:02 PM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sasha123 View Post
    he does the licky licky part,and quite often im most speaking about the touching i like him when he touches me hair legs ecc

    OK, tell him more touchy touchy before he gets to go licky licky... and to not even think about going squishy squishy until the other two requiements are met.


    Trust me... stick to your guns and he will do it... do it enough and it will become a habit. Then he will learn. If he's horny he'll do it.

    Say nothing and he will assume all is fine as it is.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 02:33 PM
    sasha123

    I try maybe I'm a bit babish as well and like to be cuddled all the time like he say but I tell him to cuddle me more thanks for your suggestions
  • Dec 16, 2008, 03:55 PM
    Choux

    Don't you sleep in your boyfriend's arms all night... or turn and hold him in your arms??

    That is the cuddling, closeness part... and quite lovely.

    IF you are just having sex in exchange for cuddling... time to talk to a professional about your needy state. Get everything straightened out in your mind so you understand yourself and can get some personal growth at age 25.

    Best wishes, :)

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