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  • Dec 16, 2008, 10:43 AM
    BatistaAutoTech
    My wife cheted and got pregnant.
    I have a wife and we have 4 children together I don't really love her but I wanted to stay because of the kids, But a few years ago she cheated and had a 5th child from an other man.
    I don't know what to do, What wold you do?:confused::mad:
  • Dec 16, 2008, 11:34 AM
    N0help4u

    Staying is not always what's best for the kids.
    If you can't work it out then it may be best thing to do is get out.
    If you do feel you need to leave the best thing to do is pay child support and be there for your kids for ALL visitations, school plays, etc... and keep up with issues such as medical and all important decisions concerning your kids.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 11:37 AM
    dazzling

    U need to get a DNA test, to see if the last child is yours or not.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 02:27 PM
    talaniman

    And how many years has this gone on?
  • Dec 16, 2008, 02:33 PM
    mcjono

    Staying together for the children is not the best for all involved. You need to really decide if you love her and make some decisions on what you want. Are you sure the last child is not yours?
  • Dec 16, 2008, 06:09 PM
    1099669

    I am recently divorced from my wife of 15 years. We have a daughter who is now 9 years old. I should have left 6 years ago, but was afraid to because of my daughter. I finally did, and was surprised to find that things worked themselves out. It was difficult but now I know it was the right thing to do. My daughter is definitely better off because of it.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 06:17 PM
    liz28

    You stated that you don't love her why? Is it due to her cheating and then having a child with someone else? How do you treat the child? Do you think this married is worth a try with counslling?
  • Dec 16, 2008, 11:01 PM
    chuff

    From the very little you wrote it sounds like you want out, and I have to tell you that I think you should leave. You in a loveless marriage, apparently supporting a child that's not yours and doing it for the other children, which is very noble, but what lessons are they really getting from this situation? To be unhappy and allow cheating? I'm sure you wouldn't want you children to go through this, yet by exposing them to this behavior they may very wll grow up believing this behavior is best for there lives as well. I would say move on, for them and for you.

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