Hello everyone
I know some of you remember me as being the one who had been debating if sleeping with a married man was OK... and I never did. Since than we have become good friends and we truly don't communicate with each other as much anymore as well. But hears the problem... the other day I saw him and it had been a while (two week) since I had last spoken to him. I asked how everything was and somehow he mentioned his little girl in which case I asked how she was and everything, and than he said instead of always talking about her he wanted me to meet her. What does that mean in the mind of a male? I know his marriage is a little rocky currently (it was the day I meat him but it seems to have gotten worse). And I honestly still have a little feelings for him but I am dating someone and am very happy with him. So my question is what is the meaning behind his statement to me?:confused:

Best advice I can give you is ask him directly.

Why do people always sit around and speculate, when a simple phone call would clear up all the confusion.

Now, on to the speculation…

It could mean he likes you (more than a friend) and wants you to get to know his daughter. Because in all honesty, a romantic relationship with you will never last if his daughter doesn't like you. So if his daughter likes you, it could then set the stage.

But, another possibility is that he just wishes for you to meet his daughter, since you are his friend and he loves his daughter.

Again, the best advice is to just ask him point blank.

Maria- Ask him why you should meet his daughter. I would also be very careful with him knowing his marriage is rocky. Best to stay out of his drama as you don't know how his wife might take you talking to her daughter.

Most parents are proud of their kids. Maybe he just wants to show what a good daddy he is. It doesn't mean that he wants to take you to a motel room.

I agree with Needkarma,

I do not think it means a thing. Parents are proud of their children and since you guys always talk about it. Maybe he just wants you to meet her. That simple.

Joe

maria26,

This is my perspective. You say that his marriage is rocky, so with that he does not care if his daughter sees him with another women. Another one with him not caring is that I believe he is trying to fish you in so that you can meet his daughter and then he will probably make his move on you. I'm with talaniman-who says stay out of the drama. Nothing really good ever comes when one gets tangled up in a web like that. You mentioned you were seeing someone else. Keep going forward and really forget about this. That's my advice. Be careful!

AGAIN - stay away from this guy - all he wants to do is sleep with you, BELIEVE ME.

WAIT until he divorces his wife. THEN you can start a relationship. Do not start anything with him until he is divorced - OR YOU WILL ONLY BE USED AND HURT.

Married men will lie, cheat, and steal to sleep with you.

My god! He has a kid as well.

PEOPLE WANT WHA TTHEY CAN'T HAVE. You're attracted to him because you can't have him... he's not yours.

OF COURSE HE TELLS YOU THE MARRIAGE IS ON THE ROCKS - HE IS TRYING TO SLEEP WITH YOU. You don't get this at all.

I am inclined to believe he is "setting the stage" for a relationship with you.

Maybe he intends to divorce his wife. Maybe he's just looking to use his daughter's "cuteness" to soften you up over how you would be "good together"...

Whatever his motives - As Wildcat said, absolutely wait until this guy is divorced before starting anything with him.

Most married guys have no intentions of leaving their wives. Remember - kid, money, still actually likes her, etc.

You could tell him one day you are attracted, but he MUST be divorced first. YOU WILL FIND YOUR ANSWER AND HIS TRUE INTENTIONS THEN.

What if he just wants her to meet his daughter and nothing else? You are assuming that the original poster is so weak-willed that she cannot resist his magical charms.
(sorry if I didn't use all caps and lots of exclamation points)

Thank you everyone for you input... I think I will just stay away and continue with my relationship. I am thinking it is almost better to loose his friendship and have a healthy relationship with the person I am seeing currently. It took me such a long time to come to this conclusion... I can not even tell you because I adore that man, but its simply not healthy anymore. Thank you everyone for your advice.

She is kind of weak because she wants to be with a married guy when there are so many single guys out there. AND she is dating a guy who apparently doesn't make her toes curl.

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Originally Posted by maria26

Thank u everyone for you input...i think i will just stay away and continue with my relationship. I am thinking it is almost better to loose his friendship and have a healthy relationship with the person i am seeing currently. it took me such a long time to come to this conclusion...i can not even tell you becuase i adore that man, but its simply not healthy anymore. Thank you everyone for your advice.

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I for one applaud your decision to move on with your life and leave his alone. THAT took a lot of maturity, especially recognizing how unhealthy the relationship is. Good luck and keep coming back ,there are a lot of people who can benefit from your experience!! :cool: :) ;)

It would have been sooooo unhealthy. So unhealthy.

I must agree with the others saying he's trying to set the stage.

If you hadn't begun some kind of relationship before and he had wanted you to meet his daughter now, I would have thought nothing of it, just the proud daddy thing.

But since there was a 'hit and miss' almost happening before and things are 'so he says' rocky now with his marriage don't let him use his daughter as leverage on your heart.

I think he's after more.

What kind of guy would use his daughter as a way to score? Even if it was innocent proud papa stuff what would the daughter say to his wife? Just a couple of red flags to my way of thinking!!

Red flags it is Talaniman. Let's just hope she does what she says she is going to do. She probably feels like it stinks now, because as she says, she adores this man. But in the long run, she see she did the right thing.

Hang in there maria26... if the one you currently are seeing is not the one for you, the ONE will come. Believe me, just give it time. But please, do what you know is right, this married man is not for you.

I thank everyone for all the helpful input however, I did find wildcats statement of me being weak insulting. I would never say that to someone not knowing them and coming to such a quick judgment, one issue those not define the person. Everyone in there life time has come across a point where they become vulnerable... so please don't insult and speak as if I was not going to be reading these posts, after all I am the one who placed it to begin with!

Maria, I'm sure Wildcat didn't mean to insult you.

by posting here you are opening yourself to whatever oppinions that another poster may have. There have been times I have felt a little verbally slapped after some blunt answers I've gotten here to my own questions, but I asked for them.

If I only wanted to hear from people the good and fluffy stuff, I'd go to my friends who know me well who sugar coat everything and try to protect me usually from the hard facts and truths.

I find it's strangers who can see things (as you present them, remember we can only go from what you choose to share) at face value and offer a very honest and unbiased opinion.

also keep in mind people also may word things differently from others. Vulnerable and weak can be seen as the same meaning just different words.

keep a stiff upper lip, and remember, we come here to offer what we feel is the best advice in our free time to help others. Not make them feel like crap.

in the end the choice is yours to return or not.

Iwas not being insulting - just being honest with you. You need to wake up to what is really going on here.

You're attracted to this guy because he is UNAVAILABLE... challenge - MANY women confuse this as a reason to pursue a guy.

PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE. Always.

You can't have him so you are attracted to - don't ever confuse this wit ht actaully pursuin gan unavaialble man.

You react on your feelings and NOT logic.

The whole affair would have been a mess most likely - with you getting used and hurt. And him giving 10,000 excuses why he did not divorce. Why isn't he divorcing now?