Why won't he make love to me?
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I know sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. Im 17 (please no comments on how young I am.. I had a serious year and a bit long relationship when I was 13/14 and have had enough crap situations with guys to know how to stand up for myself and know what I want to do etc and I know I am ready for sex) and have been with my current boyfriend for over a year now. He is the love of my life, I don't know what I would do without him. He has helped me through so much over the last year or so its unbelievable. He is sweet, caring and attractive, and he says the same about me, he says I'm beautiful. So why won't he make love to me? We are both virgins, and I am the 2nd girl he's ever done anything sexual with, but he didn't do a lot with his previous girlfriend as they were not together long. I myself was pressured into doing things when I was 13/14.. long story blahblah...
I have very low self esteem and self confidence issues, and he knows this. We used to do foreplay quite often, then it started getting a little less frequent, which was no big deal.. but now.. everytime I try and initiate anything he shrugs it off.. and however many times he's told me he wants to make love to me when it comes to it he won't. It makes me feel so unattractive and unwanted. I love him to pieces so I do not want to end the relationship. I also do not want to tell him in a way that will make him feel pressurised because I know from experience how horrible it feels.
How do I tell him how I feel without an argument and making him feel pressured? Please help.
Are we moving forward or are we stuck?
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half now. I love him with all my heart and he is an incredible, intelligent, caring, gorgeous (and plenty more) person.
But help...
We have not yet had sex, which didn't bother me at first, but the last few months its really started to play on my mind... he always makes excuses for not doing anything.
We hardly go out, he seems to have lost his sparkle.. but sometimes he can be normal..
It doesn't feel like we are moving forward.. if any thing I am questionning myself (I have low self esteem/confidence because of behaviour of past guys in my life).. am I doing something wrong? Is it me? Does he still find me attractive?
Does he still love me?
I don't know what to do to make this relationship start moving again, but I don't know what to say to him to make this happen.. I'm not great when it comes to speaking my ideas and I don't want to hurt him by accident.
Help? :confused:
Thank you
p.s. I am not going to break up with him.. I could never see myself doing that.. unless nothing else in the universe works..