o.k I want to get my ex back I was trying my no contact rule... but I always talk to my child before they go to sleep... my ex lets my child spend the night over one of her.. family members. But never with me me and my ex been together for 7yrs and been broke up for 3 months.. I have always been in my child life since birth.. now I can't see my child.. o.k she been seeing someone so I thought o.k you got somebody.. I believe she calm down... but no I still can't see my child... so we're yellin over the phone... I felt like that someone was there and she was trying to show off like I be calling her all the time" well i was but i have stopped..but i was calling about seeing my child always was ...so now i turned love to hate.. now the no contact is on for real...but how do i get her back like this ...did i help the someone...or did i help my self...i told her i'm not calling to tell my child good night...if she need a baby sitter..find one herself..the xmas present i brought not gettin them until i see my child "she does not have any money really for presents since I left she has to pay rent and all the bills" a so where I stand

You forget about "getting her back" and worry about a relationship with your child.

You need to get a grip on what is happening and that most likely your relationship is over.

What type of court ordered child custody order do you have, are you paying child support at this time.

Don't try to hurt her through the child. Take the matter to court as you are entitled to visitation and you should do so. You are hurting the child by not calling to say goodnight and if she needs a baby sitter to find one by herself, you are only hurting the child.

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Forget the ex, and focus on your child, and don't use her as a pawn in all of this. Thats disgusting. You, and her are over with, and if you can't make a happy, secure life for your child, you don't deserve to be a parent.

Deal with the child support, and visitations, thru the courts, the way your supposed to, and stop all this bickering back, and forth, with your child caught in the middle.

The sooner you start doing things the right way, for the right reasons, the sooner you get your child in your life.