In June of this year my boyfriend of just over a year broke up with me although the break was not fully made until August. I feel like I am over this person and would like to see someone new but at the same time I like being by myself. I work nights so I find it quite hard to socialise regularly. Overall I feel pretty happy and content but there are those times when I would like to have companionship. I have had one or two opportunities lately to become more acquainted with guys who seem pretty nice, but when I was around them I felt uncomfortable with anything too physical and later I would feel annoyed that I hadn't just gone with it. I realise I am being a little contradictory here but basically I think I'm in a once bitten, twice shy type of demeanour and would appreciate some advice on this. I'm wondering if I should try to push through my current cautiousness or ride it out and take things easy for a while.

It's like learning how to swim again. 1 year is a pretty long time (I'm assuming you're young like me). You don't just go out into the ocean and swim for miles and miles.

You put your floaties on and stick to the kiddy pool for awhile. When you are comfortable, graduate into deeper waters.

I feel maybe you should just live your life and let the opportunities come and go with the ones you feel comfortable with. You may be putting too much pressure on yourself so when you meet someone instead of getting comfortable, you worry too much. Not saying that's a bad thing but maybe you should relax, enjoy the alone time and when an opportunity arises once in a while take a chance.

If your not sure, your not sure, and nothing wrong with that. If your not ready, there is nothing wrong with that either. Just take things at a pace that YOUR comfortable with.