So here is the situation. My sister stays with me and so does my boyfriend. I told my sister that she can stay with me if her baby's dad don't come back from California. He has decided he don't want to come back. (its a long story and I don't want to go into detail)

Well anyway she has a 15 month old baby and she can't really afford to live on her own. Me , my sister and my boyfriend all work at the same job. I make a little more because I been there longer. Well anyway. Me and my boyfriend plan on getting our own apartment when we get our taxes because we just want to live on by ourselves.


There are plently reasons we want to live by ourselves together. One my sister has a kid and we want to be able to do things in our own house like smoke cigarettes and have parties. But since my sister has a kid we are unable to do any of that. Two we fight all the time about the littlest things and honestly I can't take the arguing and fighting anymore. Three she isn't exactly the cleanest person in the house. Everyone makes there messes yes but I believe that its common sense the clean up after yourself and your kid. Example one day she made some spaggetti I didn't eat any and neither did jamie. It was 2 days later I came into the kitchen and the spagetti was still sitting on the counter.



I can't get nice furniture because it will just get ruined. Just like my white couch has stains all over it right now. Me and Jamie don't have kids and we don't want them anytime soon. And I feel like I always have to watch what my nephew is doing because she tends to let him run around the house without watching him while she watches TV.

I mean I wouldn't mind Having my sister stay with us if she would just clen up after her self and watch her son better. And if we could just stop the arguing and fighting. She is always complaining about my boyfriend and it pisses me off. I woke up this morning to her complaining to my little sister about him. And in result it caused me and my sister to get into a argument.


So we were done arguing and then her son went into the kitchen and my sister was cooking and some grease fell on the stove and started to burn and then aiden fell on his face in the kitchen because he slipped on some water. She grabbed him up and then hurried up and moved the pot of boiling water to another burner on the stove then she turned it on and went into the living room and sat down for about 5 minutes. Now as I was watching this I asked her why don't she get up and clean up the puddle and the grease so it don't happen again. She got all mad with me and said I just picked him up and just set him in his chair and then she said that she don't want to because she is mad at me and she didn't want to go into the kitchen when I was in there. And I was like OK but you can come in here and clean it up so it don't happen again its common sense.


So then we got into another big argument and I told her that I am tired of this crap and when me and Jamie get our taxes we are getting our own place. She said to me I thought you were going to let me stay here if my baby's dad didn't come back. And I was like yeah I was but you fight with people all the time and the house is always a mess and I am tired of it. Then she says yea well if you kick me out your never seeing your nephew again. And that pissed me off so we started to argue even more.

During this she stormed off into her room. And as I was sitting in the living room watching her son because she was in the room crying. I went in there to apologize and told her that we need to talk about it and she told me to go away and called me a name. I then told her look hannah me and jamie aren't getting our own place for a long time and I can't live with you its stressing me out and me and jamie want our own place and either way its going to happen whether you want it to or not and your going to have to grow up and take care of yourself. And she still didn't want to talk about it she told me to go away.


So I was wondering if anyone sees me in the wrong. Am I a totall B**ch? Or do I have every right to want to be stress free and live on my own and not be threatened to never see my nephew again?

Your sister needs to grow up and start acting like an adult instead of a spoiled rotten kid. She is a mother and about to have another child. You didn't mention her age, but I am sure she's probably under age 23 at most. She has/had no business having children if she cannot/will not take proper care of them. She needs to grow up and get with the program. No, I don't feel you are being a rotten sister either. I think you and your boyfriend are just tired of her drama queen attitude and having to be her maid to boot. Where are your parents if you still have a little sister at home and what do they have to say about sis?

Hi , I think your problem is very genuine and you rightly deserve the better things from her side especially when you are doing so much things for her.

Since she is your sister,I will advise you to talk to her first.be strict and talk rude but always showing her what you want.if she doest agree,u have all d right to go separate.if money is the problem,u can help her ,as you said you earn a bit more than her.

Once,u get separate,she will come to know what she is without you and your boyfriend.
Living alone and that too with a kid is never easy,and I think,she has forgotten this.

All the best.

She isn't pregnant again and thank god to that one. Umm yea she is only 18. I am 19. My mother lives behind us and my dad lives in granger and basically my mom told me that I should have hannah live with me instead of her. And my dad he wouldn't want her to say with him either. So I let hannah and her baby's dad move in with me a long time ago and I told then they can stay for a few months till they get their own place.


Well it was a year later and her baby's dad decided he wanted to move to California and leave hannah and the baby. So then I was taking care of her I was paying all the bills by myself. Watching her kid everyday... I would work from 7 am to 3 pm and then come home watch him from 4 until 12 pm.


I got tired of that because I didn't have my own life so I told her she needed to get her own babysitter. We even argued about that she tried telling me that it was my job to watch him for free everyday because I am her family and I am supposed to help her out.



Well then my boyfriend came into the picture and he made me see that I shouldn't let people walk all over me. So He has helped me be strong in making the decisions I want. So eventually I Made hannah and my boyfriend pay half the rent like I do. Bc I was paying everything by myself for a long time. I was feeling like I was my sisters mom.


So now every time me and Hannah get into a fight or I ask her to do something she always tried to blame something on my boyfriend like he did something wrong. Or she will try and make up the excuse I have a kid and blah blah blah. I am sorry but lost of people have kids and they still manage to clean up after themselves and pay the bills. I know she can afford it even though she says she cant. I was taking care of her and aiden and paying the bills by myself and she tried to tell me that she can't do it.



I just want nice things. I want to be able to do what I please in my own house and just be able to relax . Like for example me and jamie have a lap top. One day The lap top was on Jamie (my bfs ) lap and he was online. Well hannah was sitting on the couch across from him and all the sudden aiden comes up and starts messing with the lap top. He was puling back on the screen and Jamie kept grabbing his hand and he said hannah come get your son he is messing up my stuff. Then hannah said he's just having fun. Jamie said you need to disapline your son or I will. So hannah gets up grabs aiden and makes a huge deal out of him saying he was going to disapline her kid because obviously she wasn't doing a good job at it.



She is so gross sometimes like she feeds her son with her hands. She literally looks like a bird feeding a baby bird. Lol I can't stand it. And even she drops some food on the floor and she will pick it up and give it to him to eat. That's so gross. She lets him get away with everythin. I know he is only 15 months but come on you have to start teaching the child right from wrong sometime.



I can go on and on about the things she does that pisses me off and is common sense.


I just don't know what to do. Like I guess you can say I have a soft spot because of her son. I love him to death. I have kicked Hannah out of my house plenty times but she makes me feel quilty because of her son. And its causing so much stress in my house hold and me and Jamie cannot take it anymore.

I always try and sit down and talk to her about things. But as soon as I try and do it and tell her what I excpect she gets pissed off at me and she starts fighting with me. Then I end up kicking her out and then she tries to make me feel bad and I give in.

I will again say the same thing.
For a few days.let her live alone.she will come to know what's like living alone in this world.

You father doesn't want to have her with him,her husband or whatever,left her.u r finding difficulties in staying with her.its a clear cut thing that its her,who's at fault.

It's a good thing that you take care of your sister.I will say be bold,as your boyfriend says.let her on her own for a few days.
That's all,problem solved.
If it doesn't,post again.we will come up with another solution.

Like honestly I don't think money is the problem. She pays me 295 a month and that is for everythign including food. So does jamie and me. I make 8.95 and hour working at least 30 hours a week. Hannah makes 8.70 and hour working the same hours as I do. She pays her babysitter 100 dollars every 2 weeks. And she has to buy diapers and milk and things for aiden. Which if you buy the big thing of diapers they can last a month and really it isn't that much money for milk and diapers and other things he needs. And honestly if she really is complaining about having to buy things for her kid then she shouldn't have opend her legs. She roughly makes about 800 dallars a month. She pays me 295.00 of that and 100 for babysitting and probably 80 bucks a month for aidens needs. Then she probably uses about 20 dollars a week in gas. If I can work at ryans buffet when we first moved here and she had no job and I was making 5.85 an hour working 10 hour shifts. And I still managed to pay rent and buy food then she can do it too makng 8.70. What she needs to do is collect child support from her baby's dad but she is so far up his and keeps thinking he is coming back to her when the obvious is that he isn't because if he really wanted to he would have already. Sorry about this book. I am just so tangles in emotion about this because its been going on for a year now. And I am at my limit.

How do I have her stay on her own? Nobody will take her in not even my dad or mom. And its not like she can get her own apartment for a few days.

Yea I know my boyfriend said that if we let her live on her own she will come crawling back to us because she knows she needs us. We don't need her she needs us. But I think that she knows that. She is just too selfish and immature to follow house rules and she needs to relize I'm not her mommy and I am not going to take care of someone that can't even clean up after themselves and follow rules. I have told her this millions of times and she tries to use the I have a son excuse or the I'm a B*tch and I chose Jamie over her and all this crap.

I think that u have made up your mind of kicking her butt of your house,so why are u thinking that much now?
If you have made a decision once,saty to it.
That's all.

Like I said earlier, this girl needs to grow up and start acting like an adult and stop the drama queen stuff. You seem to be more worried about her than she is right now. I guess mom and dad have had enough of her past antics and don't want her with them. Why does it have to boil down to just you and your boyfriend taking care of her? Why do you watch her kid from 4 until 12?? Don't understand that at all considering you said she pays for a babysitter. Is she out of the house working? Doesn't sound like it. Sounds like she's just running around and dumping her kid onto you to keep for her. Like I said, she needs to grow up and take care of her own child NOW. She needs to get a second job then to support herself and her kid and use the time between 4 and 12 more productively.

No I udef to watch him now she has a better job and pays for a sitter I just wanted to come on this site and I just wanted to hear that I'm not being a about it I needs to know that I shouldn't feel bad and how can I be strong and not worry about my nephew