How can someone who has it all have nothing @ the same time?
I've tried so so so very many times to put myself in the right place, around good people & do good w/ my life. I went back to Church because after all "you've gotta be somewhere!" right?

The thought of Religion & God in ones life isn't exactly Rocket Science, but feeling it is SO very hard. That's not my "issue" in life though. I've prayed over & over for God to show me how to live a good life. I believe in Destiny & that everything happens for a reason.

My "issue" is the fear of being alone. If God wanted me to have someone else in my life then he'd make it happen right? I don't feel that I have to go out to the Bars/Clubs to meet people... I'd rather meet someone by an accidental meeting @ somewhere like the grocery store.

I keep blaming God for my life. Most people would Kill to be in my showes, solid career, good $, vertually debt free, beautiful home & animals... just missing someone to share it all with.

How do I slow down, stop blaming God & just be @ Peace w/ where I am in life. I am SOoooo empty in life, I don't feel anything about everything. I'm SOooo sad in life & could care to be anywhere but in it. If it weren't for the animals who knows what, when & where I'd be.

I just want someone to trip around life w/. I want to trust in God & have faith in him, but I feel if he looks down on me & knows my situation & feelings then he'd help me out a little... I need direction.

I need some Devine Intervention, especially during this time of the year.

Sounds like you need to get involved with some social groups.
Maybe even do volunteer work for some charities, food banks and homeless shelters.

If you are so sad in your life... you may very well be giving off that vibe.You may smile and appear very approachable but we all have a vibe that we emit.Maybe yours is *I'm sad* and not many people in our hustle bustle world want to take the time to reach out.

Since you state that you have a solid income I would suggest you take a class.Something that has always interested you but you never thought you were able to do.Take the plunge so to speak.Don't let fear be your best friend.

Do something for yourself that makes you feel good about you without always having that burden of *sharing it* with someone hanging over your head.

Many people now a days find on line dating to be the way to go.I think if you are intelligent and proceed with caution you may very well find that is an alternative for you.

I think the only way to stop blaming God is to ask him for understanding and wisdom and be willing to hear his reply.

You have heard that *God helps those that help themselves* so perhaps he is letting you know the ball is in your court.
Often times God does tell us many things but because it isn't what we want to hear we refuse to listen.

Sadly, there is no quick fix for loneliness and suffering but I find helping others is a great way to take the focus off oneself so that may be another option for you.

I know this is a difficult time of year but think of all the people in nursing homes and hospitals and such who would be so happy to have a moment of your time and compassion.

Look beyond yourself and I think you will find your answer.

Many Blessings... Michele

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Originally Posted by RunnerGirl11

My "issue" is the fear of being alone. If God wanted me to have someone else in my life then he'd make it happen right? I don't feel that I have to go out to the Bars/Clubs to meet people...I'd rather meet someone by an accidental meeting @ somewhere like the grocery store.

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Can you honestly expect God to put the man of your dreams in the same supermarket isle as you and create an incident where you both fall head-over-heals instantly in love? As wonderful as it would be, is it ever realistically likely to happen that way? :)

Christmas can be a painful time of year if you aren't in a special relationship or your relationships are in trouble, and I'm sorry you're feeling so alone at the moment. What ideas can you come up with to make it easier for yourself this year?

I too,have suffered from this(and still do to an extent).

I joined this site to ask about a job problem and got a single answer.At first I wondered what this site was really good for?

I wasn't happy in my life.

I began to look through the site,taking note of where the areas were that interested me the most and wondered if I could contribute to the answers, instead of just asking questions.

This was over a year ago.

In that time,I have gained a great deal of insight into myself by helping others.The more others write in with provocative,mindful questions,I began to explore the answers with more and more vigor.

Like nohelpforyou said,joining a volunteer cause(as this site is!) can be a very productive way to get out of self and contribute to others.

Self doubt disappears with more exposure to the world around you and then your perspective of yourself begins to bloom.

This doesn't say that the bumps in the road aren't going to happen,but your ability to cope with them are a whole lot easier to deal with when your confidence is raised.

Your outward projection of confidence is something the other people in your world will pick up on and maybe then the 'man of your dreams' will become more evident to you.

Hope this helped,

KBC

I will address the finding someone, bibically speaking, no the "right" person is not going to just walk up to your door, and you may have well meet the right person a dozen tiimes but failed to act on it.

I know of stories where a man was ordered to go to a certain well and wait for someone to draw them water, They had to act, they had to step out in faith to go to that well.

But in general marriages in the bible days were arranged, your parents would have talked to some bodies parents and arranged for a person for you to marry.

So if you want to find a special person, you need perhaps to look and act more on it.