My husband and I are constantly fighting he blame it on my hormones since I'm pregnant but we fight because he lies about money such as what he buys how much he spent and where he went to buy. He also gets upset with me when other people make him mad. I suggested counseling because he doesn't listen to what I have to say he either walks away or hangs up the phone and he refuses to go to couples counseling. Should I continue to force counseling or what should I do?

Your pregnant so at this point you need to focus on your baby and not be getting stress out by him. You should be in a healthy environment and he should be supportive.

Counseling only works if the person is open to it. If it's force he won't get nothing out of it and it could do more harm then good because he'll always find some way to use that against you.

Your husband is suffering from something called the "jerk disorder". He have anger and he is lashing out on you because your there and that is not acceptable.

When things get too out of hand you should go stay with a relative or friend. Make him sleep on the couch and don't do anything for him, this includes laundry,cooking,etc, until he is ready to act like an adult and act civil towards you.

He should never bring outside problems into the house and take anger out on you that was meant towards someone else. If he has a problem with someone then he should take it up with that person.

I think you both should back off, and know when to shut up, as its obvious when the emotions rage, no good comes of it.

I assume your both young, and this is your first child, and you should be sharing, and enjoying this time, and working together, to build a loving caring environment, to have this baby.

You can't force him to do anything, but have your child, and get some counseling for yourself, whether he goes, or not as one of you has to be willing to do the right things for this to work.

Talk and listen during a peaceful time, and learn to treat each other a lot better, through honest communications, and working together, instead of bickering over nonsense.

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Sweetie he probably just isnt ready for a girlfriend he is a boy and boys want freedom when my ex boyfriend and i broke up i thought it was the end of the world but turns out god had something WAY better for me and now im spending the rest of my life with my very sexy very wonderful husband trust me it gets better just think of him as a stepping stone and when you find better then he will want you back but at that point you wont even want him:)

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Strange you wrote this today, those hormones?? Is this the same guy??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Strange you wrote this today, those hormones ???? Is this the same guy???

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You must have a lot of time on your hand and that's fine but its always good to encourage people even if you have to strecth the truth

I can only form an opinion by what you write, and it appears to me that here you are mad at your husband, and on another post you sing his praise, so I ask you again, which is it, or is it just the hormones. You tell me, as it appears you go through many mood changes, which is understandable.

Just trying to be fair about it, as my wife hated my guts with our first, but that didn't stop me from being there.

Crazy behavior is a pregnant females prerogative. But at some point, you have to realize your acting crazy. To say it doesn't affect your mate is not realistic, especially if this is his first.

Your right though, I do have too much time on my hands.

I think she meant she was encouraging someone else by stretching HER truth, Tal.

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I think she meant she was encouraging someone else by stretching HER truth, Tal.

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Thank you you are exactly right

You know he is going to be in denial and not give you straight answers so pushing and nagging him is only going to push him away and cause him to be more secretive.
You need to do as the others said and concentrate on you and the baby and make the best out of what you have for now.