I am asking this for my best friend she recently broke up with her boy friend she was with him for two years. They hardly ever had sex in fact all he wanted was a blow job while she stuck her toy up her he never held her cuddled or put his penis in her... never any affection at all in fact she asked one day why don't you ever have sex with me? He said because it feels weird.. well now she can't go on with her life until she knows if he is gay or was it her ? My answer is definitely gay, but value more answers. Thanks bluerio...

How old are both the people involved?

Aw heck, just tell her yes he is gay and let her get on with her life.

She needs to learn from her experience,. that she accepts being abused... change her low opinion of herself, and grow up.

Life is to be happy and enjoyed! :)

Last time I checked my goal while having sex was not to only satisfy the woman but to put my penis in her?

ZOMG A STATEMENT QUESTION!

I just don't really understand why SHE can't ask the question herself, or why the sexual acts he wanted really are relevant to a second party (you the questioner)?

I think she needs to stop playing victim and just find another boyfriend, you need to NOT be involved and really if he is gay/bi/tri/ whatever it is finished now anyway...

Move on ladies.

He may be gay, he may not. Doesn't matter. She accepted a relationship where she was not fulfilled and stayed in it. It's not her problem what his sexuality is, she needs to work on her self-esteem. She is better than this and should be glad to be out of a relationship like this and move on. Period. Leave him to his life.

She is either horrific in bed (but gives good BJ's) in his mind or he might be gay. Either way it didn't sound like a situation she really wants to remain in. She needs to find a guy that natually wants to be with her.

What difference does it make whether the guy's gay?

He's a jerk regardless, one who doesn't care about HER needs.

She should dump him AND his issues and move on.