Ask Me Help Desk - My mom stole my money.

To make a long story short,

My dad passed away in 06' a month before I was to graduate high school. He was a well known in TX, and the first black fireman in this city.My mother taugt esl/kindergarden for 30 years. Both retired when I was in the 6th grade.

About a month after his death, my mom told my sister & I to take off work. We did, and ended going to court that Friday. I repeatedly bagered my mother with questions about why we had to go, but I never got a realiable answer. When we went, Our lawyer handed my mom two packets and told her that my sister & I had to sign them. Of course my mom told us to. Upon receiving my copy, I flipped through it and pretended to read everything in detail... My mom got pretty antsy and told me to hurry. My response was... "I need to make sure Im not signing my life away..." She gave me a look of death as we proceeded into the courtroom. My mom went before the judge while my sister and I found a seat near the back. We were only there for 15 minutes.

A week later, my sister and I were at my aunts house (my mom's little sister) and she asked us what happened when we went to court. We told her everything. It was then that she told us that we had signed our accounts that my dad had for us, over to my mom.

I have brought this up numerous times with my mom and her response is always the same... " It wasn't enough to make a difference"... Point is, I want my money back, I NEED the money. I am in school, I have no car... I don't even receive money from her. I get nothing. I feel so alone and hurt. I love my mom still in all of this, but I need to know how to go about doing this. Do I sue my own mother?

* Keep in mind that she lives in a 5 million dollar mansion, Just paid cash for a new car, and doesn't work. There is also a truck just sitting in the garage that she doesn't drive, but won't let me have. She always acts like she has nothing and it pisses me off.

HELP.

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Originally Posted by GiveMeFiftyFeet

To make a long story short,

My dad passed away in 06' a month before I was to graduate high school. He was a well known in TX, and the first black fireman in this city.My mother taugt esl/kindergarden for 30 years. Both retired when I was in the 6th grade.

About a month after his death, my mom told my sister & I to take off of work. We did, and ended going to court that friday. I repeatedly bagered my mother with questions about why we had to go, but I never got a realiable answer. When we went, Our lawyer handed my mom two packets and told her that my sister & I had to sign them. Of course my mom told us to. Upon recieving my copy, I flipped through it and pretended to read everything in detail....My mom got pretty antsy and told me to hurry up. My response was..."I need to make sure Im not signing my life away..." She gave me a look of death as we proceeded into the courtroom. My mom went before the judge while my sister and I found a seat near the back. We were only there for 15 minutes.

A week later, my sister and I were at my aunts house (my mom's little sister) and she asked us what happened when we went to court. We told her everything. It was then that she told us that we had signed our accounts that my dad had for us, over to my mom.

I have brought this up numerous times with my mom and her response is always the same...." It wasn't enough to make a difference"....Point is, I want my money back, I NEED the money. I am in school, I have no car....I dont even recieve money from her. I get nothing. I feel so alone and hurt. I love my mom still in all of this, but I need to know how to go about doing this. Do I sue my own mother?

* Keep in mind that she lives in a 5 million dollar mansion, Just paid cash for a new car, and doesn't work. There is also a truck just sitting in the garage that she doesnt drive, but wont let me have. She always acts like she has nothing and it pisses me off.

HELP.

I don't understand how this happened - in Texas you cannot sign anything when you are under legal age, which it appears that you were.

This passed through the Court - go back to the Court and get a copy of the documents to see what you signed. If there was fraud, then get an Attorney and sue your mother for mishandling the estate funds.

You will also, of course, have to review your father's Will and see what the provisions were.

Your other post addresses your problems with weed (and on the legal board whatever else has been said is looked at) and that may be the reason your mother refuses to give you any money.

At this point I don't even ask her for money. I stopped doing that long ago.The "weed problem" is something that I enjoy and doesn't make me feel bad. I didn't smoke or drink in high school. I rarely drink now. I can smoke and study, write a paper---whatever. That's why I still have a 3.0. It keeps me from handling any situation-esp. this one, with out anger or force. When I first went to college, my mother told me the only thing I had to do was keep my grades up, and that's what I am doing. I do everything she wants. I am not a problem child and I cause harm to no one. She doesn't even pay for my school. I am at a private university and I am going to school on a full ride... scholarships, grants, and more. I am not a bad person and that has nothing to do with this. I don't even have money for an attorney, nor do I know how to go about finding one... Do I call the court? What exactly do I ask for?

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Originally Posted by GiveMeFiftyFeet

At this point I dont even ask her for money. I stopped doing that long ago.The "weed problem" is something that I enjoy and doesnt make me feel bad. I didnt smoke or drink in high school. I rarely drink now. I can smoke and study, write a paper---whatever. Thats why I still have a 3.0. It keeps me from handling any situation-esp. this one, with out anger or force. When I first went to college, my mother told me the only thing I had to do was keep my grades up, and thats what I am doing. I do everything she wants. I am not a problem child and I cause harm to no one. She doesnt even pay for my school. I am at a private university and I am going to school on a full ride...scholarships, grants, and more. I am not a bad person and that has nothing to do with this. I dont even have money for an attorney, nor do I know how to go about finding one......Do I call the court? What exactly do I ask for??

Here's how I would handle this - first, I would go to the Court and ask to see your father's estate file. Determine EXACTLY how the estate was divided. Look at the final settlement papers - see what they say about who got what.

If what has happened is not in accordance with what was supposed to happen you are going to have to ask to speak to one of the Attorneys at the Probate Court (or whichever handles these matters in your area) and explain the problem.

You were unable to sign away your inheritance and/or your legal rights when you were under age. Your mother should have been appointed your guardian and if money was left for you she should have - and may still be - been making annual reports to the Court.

Before you do anything you have to take ID to the Court and review the papers, make sure what you believe is true actually is true (for example, everything wasn't left to your Mother) and then take the next step.

If you are not a problem to her (and you certainly don't seem to be!) I would be a little concerned myself about what's going on.

Thanks for your help!

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Originally Posted by GiveMeFiftyFeet

Thanks for your help!

Come back and let us know what happens?

And then if you need to take the next step I'm sure a bunch of us will have ideas -

Good luck.