A used to be very good friend's with a person, I went down a bad path and lost touch with a lot of friends, my boyfriend stayed very good friends with the guy however. Recently the former friend and I began to patch things up, but we're by no means close. My boyfriend recently expressed that the friend's grandmother is dying and the friend is very lost, and feels like no one is supporting him in the hard time. I'd like to show him that I support him, but I'm not really sure how to go about this. Two of my grandparents died when I was very young, and I've been fortunate enough to, in my adult life, not yet have to experience someone I felt close to dying.

What is appropriate for me to say, or do to help him in his time of need?

It would be very kind and very appropriate for you to simply call and let him know that you heard that he was having a tough time coping with the illness and you are there for him no matter what he may need and whenever he may need to talk. Being a friend is something that is best left to proof. You can really let this person know that you are sorry for the time that you were arguing and that you mean no harm, but would like to be there for him. AND THEN BE THERE.

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Originally Posted by Noodles15

A used to be very good friend's with a person, I went down a bad path and lost touch with a lot of friends, my boyfriend stayed very good friends with the guy however. Recently the former friend and I began to patch things up, but we're by no means close. My boyfriend recently expressed that the friend's grandmother is dying and the the friend is very lost, and feels like no one is supporting him in the hard time. I'd like to show him that I support him, but I'm not really sure how to go about this. Two of my grandparents died when I was very young, and I've been fortunate enough to, in my adult life, not yet have to experience someone I felt close to dying.

What is appropriate for me to say, or do to help him in his time of need?

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I would drop a simple note - "I heard about your grandmother. I'm here for you if you need to talk or I can help in any way. Please, I'd like to hear from you."

This is an emotional time so I would suggest this means of contact so your friend can read and digest your words and not be startled by a phone call out of the blue.