I was divorced in 2004. My ex met other women on the internet and then slept with them. I had all the computer downloads printed out but New York is a 50 -50 state. Fault means nothing.
The stipulation reads that he gets 40% of my pension (which will be on goingtill death ) and I get 50% of his ( which was an IRa and is quite small) He also gets money for me to buy him out of the house. (I might add that he had his own business and refused to bill any clients for two years until after the divorce. All the cash then went to him.
He has now disappeared. He signed the deed which his attorney has but won't appear for the house closing nor will he let his attorney go through with the closing without him. He has never filed the papers that he was supposed to do for my pension. It is going on five years now.
Does a stipulation ever expire if the other person disappears? I would retire now if he weren't going to take a large portion of my pension. Otherwise I face years more of work on top of my 36 years already. (he was fired from his one and only job after the divorce for accessing porn at work.) He now lives off other women, from what I have heard through his family.)
I am tired and would like to enjoy the years I have left instead of working for a pension that he might someday show up and collect.
PLEASE help. I am out of money for attorneys but own a home and am not eligible for Legal Aid.