How do I know if my husband is cheating on me. Sometimes the signs point to the fact that he is and other times the signs say he is not. Please help me I don't know what to do! :mad:

Don't accuse him and don't look like you don't trust him.
The more he thinks you may be on to him the more he will try and hide it.
What things make you think he is cheating?

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Don't accuse him and don't look like you don't trust him.
The more he thinks you may be on to him the more he will try and hide it.
What things make you think he is cheating?

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I agree. Don't ever make him think you know anything... if he is. It will make it harder to prove.

He comes home late, he came home one night with glitter on his face, he comes home with weird items that I have never seen before. Our Intimate life went to almost nothing. That's what makes me think that.

Where does he say he has been?
Did you ask him about the glitter?

He says that he had to work late and He says he does not know where the glitter came from and that it could have came from any where.

What if you called his work or surprised him by stopping by his work with a late night snack?

I thought about that. What about the glitter though. Also he gets really secretative with his cell phone. It just seems weird to me but at the same time I don't want to say anything and be wrong.

Sounds like he may be cheating.
Is there any way you can 'innocently' catch him in something?
If he is cheating then that would explain the glitter. I know my one daughter was buying make up with glitter in it a few years ago.

You are right that saying anything is not the answer. Guys will only deny and get defensive and more secretive and try to turn it into you being the bad guy when you do.

OK so for now what should I do then

Not everyone thinks this is OK... but why don't you become your own P.I.

I mean you have to catch him somehow, right?

Yea I guess your right now my thing now is that when I confronted him about the glitter he totally changed the last couple of days he has been lovey dovey and has came home on time with no signs of cheating what does this mean.

Big red flag! Possibly means you are correct.

That means he is trying to hide it more by being there for you.
If he is cheating it won't last long though. Just long enough to make you feel like you were wrong.

OK but he swears to everyone that he is not cheating I know he could just be saying that. So what would you suggest that I do now.

Don't bring it up any more. Like I was saying the more he thinks you think he is the more secretive he will get. Like some men that cheat think the wife is clueless and they get to the point they will even talk on the phone with the wife right there and think she is too dumb to realize. So play dumb and play P.I.

Could it just be that I am insacure knowing that I have been cheated on in the past by my exes

It is possible but it sounds like he may be cheating.
You need to think of a good one shot thing to try and catch him in something that will be enough for you to know one way or another if he is being honest. Like dropping by his work when he claims he is working late.

Thank you for the advise. I will play P I and see what happens. Merry Christmas to you. Thanks again