How do I make him WANT to come visit me?
Last night I told my boyfriend I loved him and he said that he cared deeply for me and that it's not that he doesn't love me, but that he can't say it right now. We broke up a couple times this year, and have only been together for nine months. But it still hurts... I mean, how do I reconcile these hurt feelings without doing anymore damage to the relationship. I said I loved him and now he has the power to hurt me... He said he is not running off looking for other girlfriends, it's just that we have some things we need to work on and that I should let everything happen naturally. What does that mean? We are in a long distance relationship where he lives seven hours away and I am poor and disabled so I can't drive up and see him right now, but he doesn't even bring up coming down and seeing me. I have asked him and asked him and he just dodges the issue and tells me to "make him wistful," so that he WANTS to come see me. I mean, shouldn't he want to come see if he care about me at all??
I am a deserving intelligent woman that deserves to be loved and honored, and he is not doing a whole lot of that, accept "sticking around" and calling me every day to see how I am doing, but not making any plans to actually visit or see me on the holidays or anything. He has a job in retail that is holding him back a lot and he is also suffering from a physical illness right now that is terrible, so maybe I am being a bit harsh. But is has been months and I haven't seen him and he isn't reciprocating my love, what do I do? How do I make him "wistful?" And how do I handle the fact that I put myself out there only to be semi-rejected?