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  • Dec 7, 2008, 08:34 PM
    AManWithNoName
    Ive been really violent latley
    I quit smoking like a month ago, it was pot, and cigaretts. I know I shouldn't be doing eighther, because I'm onlt 15, heh heh, but yeah, I quit. But latley I've been really on edge, I'm lashing out at my teachers, my friends, my family, I've been getting in fights, and I'm really hoping its not because I'm having cravings, I mean, I've been clean for a month for christes sakes. Oh and to make matters worse, I made the girl of my godamn dreams cry, and right when I was starting to think she was falling for me, some one, any one, please tell me what to do, before I get myself killed.
  • Dec 7, 2008, 08:50 PM
    startover22
    Can you to talk to your parents. Are you able to talk to them about these things? Were you angry before you smoked pot and cigs?
    Ya know, you have a choice to control your own actions, start making better choices. Make the choice to not argue with everyone you talk to, make the choice to not to get all crazy. FOCUS on you!! Focus on all the good things, focus on not making the girl of your dreams cry. I know you get the point, and I am sorry for going on like this but you have to make choices that benefit you. Good luck and stay away from all that crap, k?
  • Dec 7, 2008, 09:17 PM
    KBC

    Think on this,You are 15,your still maturing,your hormones are raging and so are you.

    Do you think it's so different for other guys your age to go through this?(OK you have done a few drugs and smoking,but it is really about emotions running wild.)

    Starting with your first feelings of anger:

    When anger begins(in the AM when you wake up?)are you going to let it control your entire day?

    The ability to SEE the starting signs is more than half the battle to a solution.

    When these feelings begin you should look for the reasons:Up too early,stayed up too late,didn't get your school work done,noises woke you up,anything.

    Then ask yourself,AM I GOING TO LET THIS AFFECT MY ENTIRE DAY?You can let it do that,or find the reason it has bothered you,address it for what it is,and deal with it accordingly.

    Anger is easy,finding a way to put a handle on it takes work.

    Maybe the reason you were doing drugs and smoking was a way for you to cope with this anger?

    With the anger looked at,what do you do with all the freedom you'll have from not being under it's control?

    Hopefully be ready if it comes back during the day.

    Continuous attention to dealing with the anger will make you a stronger, healthier person.

    Don't get more angry if it becomes a problem during the day,just deal with it,Identify the anger,see why it started,look for a solution to it,let it go!

    I hope this makes sense to you.I would like to hear more from you soon:)

    KBC
  • Dec 8, 2008, 01:46 PM
    AManWithNoName

    Sorry kbc but I'm pretty sure that's not it, because I've been really wanting a smoke, wich gets me tensean and it also pisses me off
  • Dec 8, 2008, 01:48 PM
    AManWithNoName

    Sorry kbc but I'm pretty sure that's not it, because I've been really wanting a smoke, wich gets me tense and it also pisses me off
  • Dec 8, 2008, 02:28 PM
    KBC

    What part of my post do you see as 'not it'?

    Your hormones raging?

    Your need for a smoke isn't the initial reason for the anger in the first place,anger starts before the mind calls for the relief(smoking,drugs etc)Then your anger rises because of the need.

    Please explain more for me,I really want you to see this for what it is.

    KBC
  • Dec 8, 2008, 04:19 PM
    xodani

    The withdrawl is probably one of the main reasons your so angry, maybe you should get some help whether it be from someone close to you or someone like a therapist I started seeing one after my parents split and it is the main reason I was able to even make it to high school. And as far as making the girl you like cry, try explaining why you have been so on edge. It doesn't excuse you but she will most likley understand and she could be a great source of support. But if you don't learn to control your anger you could hurt not only yourself but others also.
  • Dec 8, 2008, 08:55 PM
    AManWithNoName

    Kbc, I get what your saying, but I've allways been a rational, reasonable, nice person, now I'm intolerant of others, pissy, and overall, just not fun to be around, xodani, your answere makes sense, maybe if I ask some one close to me for help, I could probubly calm down, with out a cigy, or a joint, thank both of you for your answeres
  • Dec 8, 2008, 09:00 PM
    AManWithNoName

    Kbc, I get what your saying, but I've allways been a rational, reasonable, nice person, now I'm intolerant of others, pissy, and overall, just not fun to be around, xodani, your answere makes sense, maybe if I ask some one close to me for help, I could probubly calm down, with out a cigy, or a joint, thank both of you for your answeres

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