My wife and I have a birth control dilemma. We watched a television show on sexuality and it suggested that oral contraceptive adversely affects sex drive in a lot of women. We thought that this might be affecting us, so we decided to get off the pill.

Here's our dilemma. Her ability to have an orgasm depends, almost entirely, on her ability to feel me having an orgasm. So, we're looking for a non-hormonal, non-condom form of birth control (condoms COMPLETELY kill her chances of orgasm). Any suggestions?

Thanks!

Tubiligation or vasectomy.

Seriously--what IS there that isn't either hormonal in some way, or a condom, male or female?

If the pill wasn't working for her, she should have talked to her doctor. There are several variations of the pill, and not all of them work the same from woman to woman.

I left out the detail that we might want to have another child in a year or two. One of the two forms of an IUD is copper-based and does not involve any hormones, but our OB/Gyn suggested that we should only select that method if we want to leave it in for at least two years.

IUD's are an ideal alternative to hormonal or barrier contraceptives.
You must understand that they are not without their faults.
-The process isn't exactly pleasant for the lady.
-Chances of bacterial infection is increased in the cervix.
-Increased pain and flow during menstrual cycles.
- and.. of course, monthly maintenance, in the case of the IUD, you need to check the for string at every cycle.

I say if you're going to have a kid in a year you should just stick to birth control or condoms.
Or you can get a vasectomy now and keep some sperm in preservation so that when you want to have a kid in the future you can.

IF you don't want kids then your best option is a vasectomy. This operation can be reversed and it depends on the doc who performs it (this would not be the time to spare expense). But otherwise there isn't a single easy to reverse birth control that isn't hormonal or barrier method.

The male procedure is much safer than the female

Vasectomies aren't always easy to reverse either.

THe party who is most resistant to other methods of birth control is who should be "fixed".

Cervical cap?