I'm worried, cause me and my partner have only done it once, she wasn't a virgin but I was and I couldn't stay hard I was scared and I can't help thinking something is wrong with me,
but during foreplay I could stay hard, but during sex I can't keep hard, like it would go for a about 5 min then I would go soft..

I'm so worried and actually dissapointed in myself =[

is this just cause I'm younge and inexperienced??
or something else..

please help =[

It's more likely you were nervous and psyched yourself out. I doubt there is anything wrong with you. If you have sex again soon don't worry about your performance so much and don't worry about getting hard or not. I'm sure you'll have no problem if you focus on her.

If was more than likely a case of nerves.
Here is a test let her get you hard, and then just let her play with you as long as you want to but make sure it is several minutes (10 - 15)See if you can stay hard this way, then later try sex again, try not to worry.

Hey Guy,

Trying to perform in the bedroom can sometimes be a difficult thing. I am here to tell, this may be your first time not being able to perform and it won't be your last. You need to make sure that you stop focusing so much on pleasing and be pleased. Finding this balance may be hard but in the end it will make a world of difference for your skin mate and yourself.

Your mind: She is so hot! Is she enjoying it? Does she like that? Maybe I should do this and this and this? Is she having a good time? I am soft holy crap what do I do, apologize! Holy crap she is angry, what do I do?

Yeah, in sex that doesn't work and will never work. That's a pretty busy mind during sex and you will lose yourself during sex. Remember sex is supposed to be fun not a chore so don't make it a chore. Learn to read her body language and you will be well on your way to fighting impotency.

Control your breathing, focus on how her vagina feels, feel the sensation of her, the heat of her body, her breathing, her moaning, how tight she grabs you. But remember not to focus to hard then you may find yourself to excited, if you catch my drift. Remember that if you feel like you are going to ejaculate to soon, you can stop for a few seconds. If it comes to the point where you feel like you might, pull out and go down on her, she may just end up liking it very much.

Kick

Five minutes is long enough for a young guy(and an old guy too). :)

The problem is with your girlfriend... she expects too much stroking than is necessary.

Use this time to learn all about foreplay, read books on how to plese a woman through pleasuring her lwoith your fingers and mouth on her lips, skin, thighs, and all over her body.

Focusing on the genitals is a bad lesson kids have learned from porn.

Stop worrying, relax... if your girlfriend complains... get rid of her, she is tearng down your self-confidence and she is a biatch.

I respectfully disagree with Choux.

I LIKE long, extended sessions of sex. I LIKE a lot of stroking. I LIKE the intimacy involved with being "connected" to my husband.

5 minutes can be plenty of time, if all you want is a quickie---but if you're going for intimate, well--you need to ask HER what she prefers, since obviously two women here have different opinions on it. Your girl may have a different opinion from ours too! Ask HER.

OK look at it this way,
I don't finish in 5minutes, it just goes soft that's the problem here.

I think you had first time jitters. Erections are pretty much a relaxed penis that allows blood to flow in and get hard.

Most guys go soft if they're scared or nervous. Just try to relax and think about how beautiful she is and play nice soft music.

You need to spend more time consentrating on what you are doing, just think of what you are doing, how many time you have wished this could happen, think of the softness and the warmth, remember all the time that as you were masturbating how you would picture it being with a girl, I am sure this will help you, oh by the way I am off to take a shower.

It's difficult to say what's going on, you haven't said anything about this girl. Maybe your not attracted to this girl as much as you could be. Or maybe it's something she is or isn't doing. Does she just lay there? Have you tried it with her on top or doggie style? How tight is she? Was the last guy she was with hung like a large farm animal? If that is the case you need to get her some Bin Wa balls to strengthen her pelvic floor muscle.

Worry will turn your wood to pulp. For the time being concentrate on getting yours. It will help build confidence. Don't let her Experience intimidate you. And before you know it you will be plowing that garden all night long.

Listen sweety don't be scared that happened to me and my husband he was a virgin when I met him and the same thing happen to him when we were boyfriend and girlfriend and he went completely down but before the situation he was hard and when we went to have sexual intercourse he went completely dead but that intends to happen in the first try or second she also has to do her all so that way for the next time you can stay hard sometimes it's the girl also she has to put her all to make you feel comfortable and stay up, so that the second round it won't happen I didn't that and it worked and ever since that day I been with my man for 2 yrs and married for 1 yr so don't worry its nothing to worry about. And congradulation in losing your virginity. Just keep cool :cool:

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Originally Posted by Rawr_its_andrew

im worried, cause me and my partner have only done it once, she wasnt a virgin but i was and i couldnt stay hard i was scared and i can't help thinking somthing is wrong with me,
but during foreplay i could stay hard, but during sex i can't keep hard, like it would go for a bout 5 min then i would go soft..

im so worried and actually dissapointed in myself =[

is this just cause im younge and inexperienced?!?!
or something else..

please help =[

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The simplest answer is usually the right one, nerves can participate a lot in first time sexual encounters. Try having her on top so her weight also pushes slightly down on your penis. The vigorous movement may be just enough to keep the juices flowing. If it continues for a time consult a doctor as E.D (Erectile Disfunction) is actually pretty common in males of all ages. Good Luck to you and happy love making.

Try a cock ring, it might work.

I would have to agree with a lot of people here and say that it is nerves. The first time I ever had sex it went fine, but when we tried again it took me forever to get hard, then the third time was hard for me to get hard. Finally I let myself relax and tried not to think about anything and just had fun. Then at one point a few years down the road it had been a couple of months since I had sex and I couldn't focus at all. I wanted it badly but I just couldn't get hard. Well, I lost my chance with her , but she wasn't right for me. I have matured a bit since and learn to not let my mind and thinking get in the way! Congrats on losing your V-card!

If its nerves the problem will self correct... if it doesn't get yourself to a Dr. and make sure there are no undiagnosed medical conditions that might cause it.

No nothing is wrong with you... your too nervous. Once your relaxed you will get it, just don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Thanks Too Everyone That Is Helping.
just recently we tried it again, and I stayed hard,
all 3 times =D
yay!
again thanks for all the help guys much appriciated =]

Awesome! Now go learn about multiple orgasms!

thanks =]
will do =]