Okay, before I start. I know about all the bad things about dating an older guy. Most of them are too desperate to get someone their own age, so they just use you for sex. And also it's illegal, etc.

But, I've known this guy for 2 years on msn, non stop talking.. We've been through a lot of heartbreak ONLY on msn. Anyway, we decided to meet up finally and we have been going out for 4 months. He is nerdy, yes I could say he is a little bit desperate, but he's had one girlfriend at least and we were both virgins before we met. He is not rude, he's very polite and I've met his parents, he's met mine we just never told them we're dating.

A few months ago we decided to have sex, it felt like the time, although I didn't really want to but I just went along with it (This is soemthing I truly regret). I've told him that I don't feel comfortable having sex because I feel like we've moved to fast. He said OK, I'll wait till you're older. The next time we met he got an erection and said his balls hurt if he odoesn't get sex and he doesn't want to masturbate & watch porn. So we had sex again.

Well, I want to know if all 19yr old guys would date a 15yr old just to have sex. We tell each other we love each other everyday.

Please give me advice? Do you think this guy is just using me for sex?

Thank you all.

Yes. YES HE IS. In my opinion, you should not be dating this guy. If he's nineteen and he's dating a fifteen-year-old and if he's pressuring you into having sex then he is only using you for sex. Too bad if his balls are blue, it's not your problem. In my opinion, he has got to go.

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Originally Posted by iloveLf221

Yes. YES HE IS. In my opinion, you should not be dating this guy. If he's nineteen and he's dating a fifteen-year-old and if he's pressuring you into having sex then he is only using you for sex. Too bad if his balls are blue, it's not your problem. In my opinion, he has got to go.

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*sigh*. I'm going to decline sex with him for good reasons and see if he will actually wait, if he doesn't then he's gone. Thanks

If he loves you he doesn't need sex to want to be with you. If he leaves you for holding out, he's a scumbag

Then again, if you tell him you will never have sex again (except maybe for kids) and he stays with you, he's a good dude and you should totally stay with him. Make sure he doesn't think you are bluffing though,

Tell him you just want to be friends for now and if he is not going to comply then you don't want to see him. When he uses the 'my balls hurt' line look at it as a con line trying to put you on a guilt trip.
If you really don't feel comfortable with him then most likely that is a sign that you should just avoid him all together.

You've already given him a good reason to wait, because it makes you uncomfortable. And then he pressured you again, because he only cares about the sex. Forget this guy, you're way too young to be having sex anyway.

Also as far as the 'my balls' hurt next time a guy tries to lay that one on you say "So if you happen to be with another girl or out in public and have this problem arise how do you handle it then?"

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Originally Posted by lisa45

he said ok, i'll wait till you're older. The next time we met he got an erection and said his balls hurt if he odoesn't get sex and he doesn't want to masturbate & watch porn. So we had sex again.

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Doesn't this answer your question? He took back what he said and basically made you feel quilty that he doesn't want to masturbate and watch porn to get off.

He connivingly had sex with you. That says a lot about his character. I think you should put this relationship on hold.

The fact that you fell for the 'my balls hurt' line is EXACTLY why he wants to date a 15 year old and not somebody his own age.

Maybe he does love you a bit but he used you and that is not real love.

I'd chalk this one down to a lesson learnt and tell him where to go. Even tell him why, maybe then he can learn from his mistakes too.

[QUOTE=templelane;1414197]The fact that you fell for the 'my balls hurt' line is EXACTLY why he wants to date a 15 year old and not somebody his own age.[QUOTE]

Exactly!

OK, There are lots of threads here about younger girls dating older guys. Most of will issue warnings about such actions. Generally we will say that an adult male is usually looking for sex from the younfer female. And there are those who argue the point talking about love etc.

Well your experience justfies what most of us have said. Let me put it to you this way; in most places you were RAPED!! Yes I said raped. Most areas list 16 as the age of consent. So for an adult (over 18) male to have sex with a girl under the age of consent is statutory rape.

This person doesn't not respect you, he's using you. If I were you, I would end the relationship with him and tell him that if he bothers you anyore you will contact the police.

He is definitely using you for sex. A real man would not date someone who it is ILLEGAL to date because she is TOO YOUNG. He is a pervert. All he's going to do is keep pressuring you into sex until your giving it to him all the time and then he finds someone either his age and grows up or someone younger then you and continues to be a pedaphile. Tell your parents and stay away from him.

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

a real man would not date someone who it is ILLEGAL to date because she is TOO YOUNG.

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Just to clarify its not illegal to date anyone. Its just illegal to have sex with someone underage.