Can this dead end evolve?
I have been in a serious relationship for the last 5 years, but the more I think about my future seriously the more I fear this relationship will take me nowhere. When I met "John" I was only 20 years old and fresh out of a disatisying life of short term flings and disapointments. When we started dating I quickly became infatuated with him and he appeared to feel the same. He had the same cravings for a close exclusive relationship with me, and we shared a great sense of humor, and enjoyed doing a lot of the same things. It seemed like a great wonderful change had come into my life. After awhile I realized that "John" enjoyed having an occasional drug cocktail of cocaine beer and painpills. At the time I didn't do any drugs myself and this bothered me, but I figured maybe if this was something he did rarely maybe we could work on it. I ended up finding out that his drug use was more than an occasional thing, he was using cocaine almost every day and drinking beer like koolaide. I talked to him about it and he said he would quit and cut down on these habbits. He seemed better for awhile but eventually I caught him using again. I was already emotionally invested and chose to stay and help him through it. I was convinced that I loved him and there was no sense in giving up when he had so many perfect qualities that I longed for.We would have to work on this. Well my brother suggested I leave him saying that he will only bring me down with him. He was right three years later I was a working fully functional oxcontin addict with a $300 a week habit. Eventually I ended up in a methadone program and have stayed clean since. "John" has never successfully stayed clean and can't seem to keep a job anymore. I know I need to think of my future AND NOT ONLY THINK OF "jOHN" but I am so emotionally invested in him how could I ever leave him? What can I do?
