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  • Dec 6, 2008, 11:54 AM
    Datefixer
    I dumped him. Now I realize its what he wanted
    Me and this guy started talking in June. He is 18 and I'm 16. Last year people talked about how mean he was to girls and I believed them. He's a player and I realize that now... but back to the story. I always played hard to get with him knowing he wanted to hangout and the last day of school I asked him to sign my yearbook.. that is what started it all. We textd and talked on the phone everyday all day the entire summer and we hungout whenever we got the chance. In July. I went to Hawaii for a week and while I was there he gor drunk and hooked up with two girls. We were together. Not dating but we were togther. He felt terrible but told me what happened I was so angry I didn't know what to do. He begged and told me he hearts me ( we decided that because it was more than like and less than love) and eventually I took him back. I had so many strong feelings for him. In September I slipped that I liked this other guy maybe a little because me and him talked before me and him talked over the summer and seeing him at school I started to like him a little. He got furious. We still weren't dating but we wanted to he just didn't ask me out. After a few weeks he asked me out and I thought everything was fine until his best girlfreind came into the picture a lot more. Her name is jordon. They talked a good amount of time over the summer and I thought they were just friends but I found out they had a thing before me and him. I started to get suspisious because it seemed like he liked her... and liked me. We went a long fighing about oh you like jordon and he said no you like colin. And we both accused each other all the time. But we still stayed together. Fancy that. I loved him. Lets make his name rob. I loved rob but I thought he liked jordon. A few weeks during halloween he went down some girls shirt and told me it was a joke. I got so pissed and I broke up with him and he said 'ok whatever f this' and didn't talk to me. I begged him to come back like an idiot because I didn't know what to do without him. He took me back and we were fine until we started fighting again. He said he might have feelings for jordon and kept saying I Don't know I Don't know. I stayed and did nothing because I didn't want him to leave me. Another few weeks went by and I couldn't take it and I broke up with him. He hugged me and said hed miss me. The next day. He txted me saying thank you and I love you. And I realized he wanted to break up with me the whole time but was afriad to hurt me. I've been trying to get him back and I don't know if its working. See colin likes me and always have and rob found out. He txed me last night from a basketball game for our school saying "im sitting watching your f-ing friend colin and I said 'ok cool' (they both play basketball but rob didn't play this year. He told me he couldn't believe that I told him colin liked me... umm OK? What does that mean? He still likes me?. or he just wants someone to like him? Then he told me to f-off and leave him alone. I'm guessing he's jealous... but I don't know. I want him back but I also want to move on.. everyone says to move on but I don't know I love him. I don't know if I can even like colin. Rob is the first person I did stuff with.. everything but sex. And its hard to leave him because I don't know if it will be the same with anyone else. Colin just seems... so young compared to rob. I don't know what to do... its hard because maybe rob still likes me? He said he doesn't want to get back together though. Maybe he likes jordon? Jordon definitely likes him. Me and her hate each other just like how colin and rob hate each other. Its weird that he is overprotective but doesn't want me back. And now he won't talk to me. I never text him first he always does. And I'm not going to say sorry because I didn't do anything wrong. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE I need answers! Help me!

    - datefixer
  • Dec 6, 2008, 12:53 PM
    iloverandy

    Rob seems like a real huge a hole.. colin might of done that to u but its seems he likes you more.. it is hard to have a jealous boyfriend.. trust me I know.. Colin would be my first choice maybe he had to experiment with other stuff to realize he liked you all along.. give colin a chance..
  • Dec 6, 2008, 01:14 PM
    TrueFaith

    I would say don't bother with either of them

    They both have no idea what they want
    And they don't really care about you
    As it shows in your letter.

    My advice

    Drop them both.
    And find someone else that is WORTH your time

    No one should ever be 2nd best to anyone.
    And your boyfriends should not go off and TRY other girls
    Then come crawling back going..
    Oh yeah.. I like you now..
    BAH!

    Be 2nd best to no one girl
    Stand on your own two feet
    Drop the boys

    Find a real man

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