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  • Dec 5, 2008, 09:45 AM
    Jlynn88
    Overprotective roommate
    So about five months ago, me and my good friend decided to move in with each other in a two bedroom aptartment. And as far as I'm concerned, its going well. We have nice things, and we always pay the bills on time. My problem is this though. I started dating this guy about two and a half months ago, and I really like him. I feel that I am my own person, being TWENTY YEARS OLD, I should be able to make my own decisions!! Well I have been staying with him a lot latley, and my roommate gets soooo mad at me?? Its like twenty questions when I come and go..? And its always, when are you coming home? And what are you doing? And don't you think you ought to stay home? And bla.. she is constantly breathing down my back about it... I pay my half of the rent, and I feel that I should be able to do what I want to!! Am I wrong? I mean if I wanted to be askd a million questions all the time about where and what I was doing, I would have just stayd at home! If I don't stay at home, she's always short with me the next day... Well its getting pretty bad, and I don't even know if I want to keep living with her... every time I am at home I feel like I'm walking on eggshells!! I mean, the past three nights I have stayed with him, and ill probaley stay with him tonight, but our relationship is fresh and we always want to be with each other! I don't know what to do?? It really pisses me off that she is constantly mad at me... I mean she's not my mom!! Am I wrong?:D Please give me some advice!!
  • Dec 5, 2008, 09:54 AM
    Justwantfair

    She is not mad at you because she thinks she is your mom.

    She is jealous that she is losing a friend/roommate. The best solution is to start making some time for her. She is apparently missing you.
  • Dec 5, 2008, 04:26 PM
    N0help4u

    Yes start making time for her and showing her some consideration like letting her know before hand. Like tonight let her know your plans rather than excluding her. I know when my kids were at home, if they simply called and said ''I am staying at so and so's for the night'' I was okay with it. If they just stayed there and I had no idea what their plans were I was tossing and turning and waking up all night thinking that they were coming home. Then yeah I was not at all happy with them when they did come home.
    If she still has a problem then you need to set aside a time to talk with her and tell her that you moved from home to have a home you could feel comfortable coming and going in. That you will gladly start being considerate and letting her know your plans as soon as you know. If she is going to keep getting upset then you are going to end up feeling you have no alternative but to move.

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