I have recently learned that my husband of 16 years has been using transexual escort agencies - what does this mean? Is he gay, bi-sexual or is this a straight man's fantasies gone out of control?

Likely bi or a straight guys curioustiy of a girl "packin".

Gay guys generally don't enjoy sex with women so that's not a likely excuse if you have a good sex life together.

However given this info I hope you have been tested recently for STD's

So your husband is using transexual prostitutes? First let me suggest that you cut off all sexual contact with him for now. Second, get yourself tested for STD's. Third, insist that he get tested also and get into counselling. Whether he is homosexual or not is sort of hard to know from your short narrative. However this is not the sort of behavior a straight person would generally engage in. It is quite possible that he has been a closet homosexual and this is his way of coming out? Not unheard of in our society.

The only way you're going to find out is to talk to him.

Only HE is going to know his sexual orientation.

And I agree with others--cheating is cheating. Get tested for STDs, and get into counseling together if you want to save your marriage.

I once heard a guy say "he slept with transexuals because he didn't want to feel gay". Even though he was sleeping with them they look like a women, dressed like one, and smelled like one but the only thing they didn't have a split between they legs and to him he was sleeping with a women and didn't believe he was gay or bi because he had all the characteristics of a women except for his privates. I found what he said odd but to him it made sense.

You need to confront your husband and make some tough decisions and run to your ob/gyn doctor.

Your husband likes penis in his sex life.

Because he in engaging in homosexual sexual behavior-specially with a prostitute, you have to protect yourself from fatal and otherwise diseases, girl. It is highly likely he has given you something already.

If you are a professional woman yourself, there is still time to get out of that dangerous business.

Take care,

There is a HUGE leap between just looking at it or thinking about it from curiousity, and actually doing it.

I can't actually fathom what makes a guy do this. Its beyond my ability to empathize with.

But do make sure you haven't caught anything yet... and make sure you don't catch anything in the future if your choice is to remain with him.

Baby girl... 16 years still wouldn't make me stay!! RUN RUN as fast as you can! There is a problem straight men don't go out with tranny's