Hello,
My husband and I got married a few months ago.. I just have a minor problem that I would like to understand or see if there is other guys similar to him-if its something normal..
I consider myself as someone very attractive so I don't quite understand his case.. The problem is that he has mentioned to me that he isn't that type of guy that likes or gets turn on when I do a little dress up when me and him get together intimately.. I like to wear lingeries and stuff but he isn't into that- all he has told me was that he just likes the stockings but the rest he doesn't see that much of a point cause in the end it will all be coming off.. I thought all men are into that kinky stuff. I mean, sometimes he checks out girls on the TV that are wearing those type of outfits..
Also another thing is that when we are together he tends to close his eyes when he is inside.. Ive asked him why and he has said that its cause he feels weird looking at me while having sex.. dont get me wrong he does take a glimpse now and then..
He has been a porn addict before and he is trying to let that go.. Iam just trying to understand if all this is normal.. is their other guys like this out their? When he closes his eyes is it cause he is trying to concentrate or is thinking about someone else?

Not all men like the same things, probably doesn't mean it turns him off either, just doesn't do that special trick.

Closing eyes is normal... would you want to kiss and stare in someone else's eyes... that doesn't mean he is imagining someone else.

Now if he screams someone else's name than I would worry a bit.

Yeah its OK. If you like it though. That's cool you keep on doing it
But if its not his thing. Then we all have our own thing don't we

And I am sure he likes it ;) just not in the way you want him to

Some guys only like stockings others like bras. So many different things.

Its totally normal. Find something that works for both of you :)

Regards

Every guy is different, and we like what we like, and do what we do, the way we do it. I would say if he is consistent with what he does, then that normal for him.

As to what he is thinking when he closes his eyes while he is inside of you, If he is like me he ain't thinking no more, but you would have to ask him, not during, but after.

I agree with Tal, I don't always stare at my fiancé while we have sex nor do many thoughts go through my head either. You get caught up in the moment and enjoy it, well for most people.

Lingerie isn't for everyone, I of course, like it but don't crave it either. If she comes out wearing it, then I'm all set to go, if not I am the same. I have a guy friend who doesn't like it and sees it as a waste of money. Everyone has their own "on" switch

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Hubby doesn't like lingeries

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Then he really shouldn't wear them :p

But you can, under your dress everyday :rolleyes:

Ask him why it needs to come off? My husband and I tend to leave the little outfits on... It added a sense of urgency to the sex... If you can leave the stockings on the get a little skirt, all you need to do is lift it up for optimal access.. Also let him know the lingerie makes YOU feel sexier and therefore it sets the mood to please him..
My eyes close during sex too, but trust me the only guy I'm fantazing about is my husband..
Also just a thought... If he was a past porn addict, is it possible in attempting to cure himself from it, he doesn't want to see the lingerie on you? Maybe it takes him back to his porn addiction? And makes him want more porn?

When you say he isn't into lingerie, do you mean he doesn't like it at all? Or that he just doesn't get as excited as you'd like him to? If he doesn't like it at all there are other things that you could wear that would look good too. Like maybe a camisole with lace trim and some sexy underwear. That way you would still get to kind of dress up but without being too dressed up. Just an idea ;)