Originally Posted by Crybaby9112001
I understand where you are comeing from Philly but i didnt post this for people to tell me that im ****ed up and im at a dead end. I came here to get advice. But it doesnt matter now cause i posted this awhole ago. I took Demonspeeding, Krs and Chery's advice. I had no other choice. I told my boyfriend what had happened and he told me he already knew, he found out when it happened but he didnt want to tell me. But since we have a kid now we both no it is different now. Sometimes it can get akward when i see another actractive women around him but and same for him. We both are doing good now, i know over time it will get better....
Philly I wasnt offended because i didnt want to hear the truth....i knew it was wrong what i did but i was fifteen at the time and i was going through a lot of emotional things...im not saying that as an excuse but i know that the reason i did those things was bigger than anything i could have handled, probably bigger than anything alot of people could handle.
I wasnt getting angry because wildcat was telling the truth i was geting angry because the way she was commenting on things and the things that she said wasnt true, such as "Once a cheater always a cheater" or her saying that my life is a mess. I dont feel that people can say such things when they dont know you as a person and being that she thinks that it is ok to talk to people in that manner is really disturbing.
Philly you basicly said the same thing as her but in a different manner. I dont agree with about 80 percent of what you have said because my relationship with my boyfriend has already changed for the better. and yes i am a changed woman now. I am in a new enviornment and i my mentality has changed. Believe it or not 4 years you can overcome a lot of things, at 15 years old you are already going through so many changes and other added things to it.
You and wildcat act as if you have not made mistakes in your life that you have regreted, and of course im sure you had a family to guide you and friends to help you through. but others are not as gifted as that. When i met my boyfriend i was 13 liveing in the streets with no guidance, it took me a lot of time to overcome the things that i went through, but i did it, i was able to get through without people like you and wildcat telling me that it is never going to get beter and My life is messed up and its all my fault.
I can understand where people like you and wildcat come from....it is so easy to judge people when you dont know them, when you havent lived there life, and when you have never been in the situation.
But i truthfully thought that this site was a site advice and support. But i guess i still have a lot to learn when it comes to the internet.