This guy from my church started to like me a couple months ago. I think it was because I wore a really nice dress and I'm not the smallest up top so I'm not really sure if he likes me for me or my body.
We started talking over the phone and he always brings up sex and keeps asking me what I've ever done with a guy and what's the farthest I've ever gone with a guy before. I though he was a really nice guy until I found out that all he thinks about is sex. I know that's just what guys normally do but I really like him and I'm not going to do anything with anyone until I get married. Then he can be the sweetest thing in the world. So I don't know whether to end the relationahip now or wait and see what he's really up too.

Why not tell him " i'm not going to do anything with anyone until i get married." as you put it and then see what he says.

Communication is the bases of any relationship. Tell him it bothers you to hear him talk about that only.

Good luck

Be honest with him. You know you want to.

If all he thinks about is sex and you don't like that, then how can you like him? Do you like him for who he is? Because if you do, you like him because he thinks about sex. And if you don't like him because of that, you like him for his looks. Which is no good reason at all. And don't try to change guys. They won't change unless they really want to... and a girl who could possibly give them exactly what they want doesn't encourage that.

I feel he is just those one track minded guys, guys should respect women, not only think women as sex objects. Sex is an important part of life, but not everything.

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Originally Posted by NItEMArE129

if all he thinks about is sex and you don't like that, then how can you like him? do you like him for who he is? because if you do, you like him because he thinks about sex.

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Not necessarily. A girl who likes a guy does so out of an emotional reaction, not a logical one. You can like a guy despite of certain behaviours. You don't have to like everything a person does to want to be with them romantically. A non-smoker may like a guy who's a smoker, even though she hates the fact that he smokes.

Anyway, I agree with AtYourService. If you really plan on staying a virgin until marriage, then it's your obligation to put up that boundary. If he's just looking to have sex then tell him now instead of leading him on. There's no reason you would want to be in a relationship with a guy who just wants to have sex anyway when that's not something you're ready to do.

Well first off when two people meet all they have is physical attraction to get the ship sailing. But if all he is talking about is sex what do you think he is going to want to do when you start meeting in person? Or at the end of a date?

Put up the boundary and see if he sticks around, also if he had any type of respect he would stop talking about sex so much around you.

If Doesn't Like U For, YOU Then Hun iSay Leave Him Cuse He Isn't WORTH IT!
So Dnt Let Ths One Guy Ruin Ur Plans OR What U Want to Do In The Future, But Basically Its Up To YOU let God Handlee iT, Cuse If NOBODY Else Loves OR Cares About U, One Person U Can Count ON Is God!