Oookay, so my ex boyfriend and I dated for 6 months, and during that time we broke up once, but only for like a week. He wanted me back, so I tok him back. The reason for us breaking up the first time was because he felt he was losing his feelings. We dated a second time around, and he had completely changed. He was alwayssss texting other girls when he was with me and flirting with other girls and I just couldn't deal with it. So we ended it. Ever since then I've obviously had a lot of feelings for him because he was my first love. We tried to be friends but he likes to brag to me about everything he does with other girls, and how he has all these feelings for other girls, BUT he still says no matter what, he has all these feelings for me and he can't help it because I was his first love too. So here I am trying to be friends but he's telling me he still has feelings for me. Now, he has been dating this other girl for about 4 months, and he STILL continues to tell me he has feelings for me. Like what is he doing? I don't understand what he's trying to pull. And I have offered myself back to him numerous times and he still says "oh well i have a lot of feelings for her too". I just don't get it. My friends say he's just trying to keep me on a string because he thinks ill always be there. I just don't understand, if he says he wants me, then why is he still with the girl he's with now? I don't know what to doooooo! Should I move on completely, should I ignore him (which I've tried many times, and can't help but to talk to him) or what? Because its like, we are really good friends. But it stinks because its hard to be friends with someone I have feelings with. Helpppppp!

Yes, he doesn't want to get back together, he may have feelings but he is moving on.

You should do the same.

Yeah, it's time to move on. You really do need to ignore him. Don't answer his calls. Don't text him back. Delete his number from your phone. Change your number if you need to but you won't be able to move on if you're still talking to him.

Thanks. I have moved on though. I had a really good relationship with someone over the summer, and it ended. And now I'm back to him, and it seems no matter what I do or wherever I end up, I always have that feeling. And he's the sameee. He has dated like 3 other girls after me, but he still is coming back to me. I don't know what to doooo : (

ZoeMarie: I love your signature. Is that van wilder as in van wilder the movie? Love it have it on DVD

britaay011: your friends are right. He is stringing you along thinking you will always be there.

Prove him wrong! Find someone else too! You can find the same feelings in someone else that you have found in this guy. You will even be treated better :)

Lol. Quit talking to him. You may have moved on, but you're not over him. That's why you need to stop talking to him.

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ZoeMarie: i love your signature. is that van wilder as in van wilder the movie?? love it have it on DVD

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Yes it is! Lol. I have it on dvd too. Love it! :)

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You are putting him on a pedastool. You are the reason you are not finding someone else that will be like him.

Don't think like that or you will be alone forever. You will be able to love again!

You don't need to be friends with him because at this point your not even over him. Being that your not over him you might wind up doing something stupid with him that would only hurt you in the long run.

Stop and let go the past and move on towards the future. Right now your stuck in the past and I don't think you had any healing time because if you did you would be able to let go.

You should ignore him for now because you still love him. He sounds like a player to me so don't let him keep you while dating other girls. He can say whatever he wants just to make you stay. But you do know that it hurts you deep inside, so why stay?

Sure he has feelings for you. He also has feelings for his mother, dad, sisters/brothers, friends. Sure you have feelings for him but what good is it doing you when there are a bunch of other girls that mean more to him than you. You will always remember and romanticize the good times with him to the point that it is easy to convince yourself you love him but what's love got to do with it when you can't make it work. Love is not a feeling it is a commitment and he is NOT interested in that with you. Accept that you aren't much more than 'kid sister' to him.

He might have moved on, but he still remembers you since you two talk and all. But since he is with someone else, and you're not, until you get someone new, he'll still bother you.

I agree with your friend. I went through something like this too. This guy does not care about your feelings, he just wants to keep you there in case he ever needs a back up. Try and forget about him.