Ok, not sure how to deal with this. We were at a party and my wife decided her and a good girlfriend were going to kiss. Why, I don't know. Let me set the scene. She was pretty drunk and me a mutual male friend, my wife and her girlfriend were together in an area where it was hard for the other party goers to see. I am not sure how this all got set up but I ended up with her camera in my hand to take pictures. I have had issues with my wife feeling stifled because I can be overbearing sometimes so I decided to go with it. At first it was a bit exciting but afterward I became a bit withdrawn and depressed. I asked her later what it was all about and she blew it off saying it was just for s and giggles and she was not going lesbian or anything like that. For the record it was a tongue kiss for about 4 or 5 seconds, twice (I did not get the picture good the first time). Anyway, I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill but our love life isn't excactly on fire (two kids, married 15 years) :confused:I felt a bit threatened I guess. Thoughts and comments??

Fixing up your lovelife would be a good start!


Besides, every woman nowadays has kissed another woman, maybe she's just catching up. As long as its not a structurala thing... I wouldn't worry.. yet

I guess I can't really comment on whether it was wrong or not. I have just noticed more people doing this and their general reaction is that it is no big deal. How do you kiss or do anything other wise with a friend and then go back to shopping and exchanging recipes? I don't get it myelf and I think you had every right to feel threatened. How would your wife take it if you decided to kiss your guy friend. For some unknown reason it's suppose to be different for women? Good Luck with that, I can understand your concern.

Maybe your wife thought it would be a turn on for you, and that it might get something going on in your bedroom with the sex life between you and her. I would work on other things to spice up your sex life. I definitely think there is more than meets the eye here, and I think you and your wife need better communication overall. Good luck!

The last thing you need to do is trip over what people do when they are drunk.

Build some communications with you and your wife, and get your house in order, so you don't feel threatened by her being drunk.

One of my friends and I were drunk and she wanted to impress the guy that she was with and thought it would be a good idea to kiss me. I knew she just wanted attention so I went along with it for the heck of it. Didn't do anything for me and actually it felt awkward. Later on the guy I was dating asked me what that was about and I told him that it was nothing to worry about and everything was fine.

+2 for DeleteAndBan haha

Please contribute something to the mix or don't reply to the question.

Like Tal said, communication is what would solve most of your marital problems. Perhaps you and your wife should set some boundaries because for me, if my fiancé kissed another girl, I would see that as cheating and she has been made aware of that.

I just post one just like this but I was not included in the kissing, I think kissing a guy or girl in a drunkin state is still cheatin I ask my wife how she would feel if the tables were turned (not that am going to kiss a dude) but if I kissed another girl, she said she would be upset. A kiss on the lips is something for people that love each other not a fun drunk party game that you try to keep quite.