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  • Nov 30, 2008, 11:44 PM
    helpme1089
    What's she thinking?
    So I've been with my girlfriend almost 3 months. Everything was going really well until recently. We had a few arguments that seemed to fizzle over but recently it's gotten kind of bad. She keeps making plans to hang out with me and then cancelling last minute saying that she's tired or busy with hw. Is she just trying to avoid me or is she really busy? The time we spend together seems like it's still good but I hate when people flake on me...
  • Nov 30, 2008, 11:51 PM
    thadevilsadvocate

    It sounds like she has an issue with following through with things, and that is not a good sign. I understand completely where you are coming from as far as hating when people flake on you. It seems as though she is losing interest in spending time with you because she thinks that you two are just going to wind up in another argument. However, part of me thinks that her flaking on you is what a majority of your arguments are about?

    If this is the case, then you need to talk with her about this. If she doesn't really express much interest in your concern, then you need to get out of the relationship before you get too deep in and fall for her. It looks to be a tough road for you from her on out if she is flaking on your three months in to the relationship. It sounds like she doesn't really want to make an effort here, and you don't need someone like that. It will only get worse for you, so be careful.
  • Dec 1, 2008, 09:20 AM
    LifeChangesMan
    I don't know what to say really, a 3 month relationship in my eyes that has problems already probably isn't something you want to continue along with, I mean try and resolve the problems ASAP and if they don't disappear I would search for love in a different place my friend.
  • Dec 1, 2008, 11:14 AM
    Homegirl 50

    Sounds like your 3 month relationship is fizzling out. Talk to her, let her know what you are thinking. Could be this is as far as this is going to go.
  • Dec 1, 2008, 11:38 AM
    Romefalls19

    3 months and already this much drama? Man I would leave, 3 months is suppose to be the honeymoon period not arguing over stupid crap and being ditched
  • Dec 1, 2008, 11:52 AM
    Homegirl 50

    Three months is also a trial period, you see if it's going to work or not during that time.
    IMO the fire has fizzled. Give it up.
  • Dec 1, 2008, 12:01 PM
    ZoeMarie

    I would get out of this situation. She really doesn't sound like you can rely on her at all.
  • Dec 1, 2008, 12:22 PM
    talaniman

    I don't think she is as interested as you are, so hope you enjoyed those 3 months, because its time to go. You can try and talk to her, but I doubt if anything changes.

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