Hello everyone me and my girlfriend dated 2 and a half years. As we had ups and downs... then later on she told me that its over... and was angry at the time. As then I went to her house to speak and all and from upsetness I punched the wall... her friends called the cops on me got a avo towards her and she told me she wants the avo for give me a lesson... I love her heaps write letters every day and all... she's got our pictures of us... and all the memories and all in a box... I love her so much and after 1 month I got a call from her and every thing was cool acting normall and all den wanted to see me saw each other for in that time she huged and pashed me... then as we were speaking a lot and all she satrted to get stressed again even that she loves me she wants time... I don't know what to do... as she's my 1 and only... she promised me she isn't going to move on and is just doing her last year of school. She said she will contact me when she wants I shouldn't if I do she will extend the time more... how long should I wait what should I do?? Please help!! I did do wrong as I promise her isn't going to happened again she told me she hates me and is cut at me... but still loves me... :confused::confused:

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Originally Posted by IWRNDU

hello everyone me and my girlfriend dated 2 and a half years. as we had ups and downs... then later on she told me that its over... and was angry at the time. as then i went to her house to speak and all and from upsetness i punched the wall... her friends called the cops on me got a avo towards her and she told me she wants the avo to give me a lesson... i love her heaps, write letters every day and all... shes got our pictures of us... and all the memories and all in a box... i love her so much and after 1 month i got a call from her and every thing was cool actin normall and all den wanted to see me, saw each other for 10mins in that time she huged and pashed me... then as we were speakin alot and all she satrted to get stressed again (in days pasted) even that she loves me she wants time... idk what to do... as shes my 1 and only... she promised me she isnt gona move on and is just doin her last year of school. she said she will contact me when she wants i shouldnt if i do contact her she will extend the time more... how long should i wait what should i do??? please help!!! i did do wrong as i promise her isnt gona happened again she told me she hates me and is cut at me... but still loves me... any ideas? :confused::confused:

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I miss spelt the other one sorry

She said she needs time. So give her time. If you truly love her then you should do all you can do listen to what she needs. If she's in the last year of school then she's probably very busy.. very stressed and sometimes a relationship is too hard to deal with. Now... you need to focus on yourself. Take this time to work on the issues you talked about... mostly your anger. You really should seek counseling for your anger management issues... this would something very good to show her that you did. That would help reassure her that you really won't do it again. Women get very scared of a man who reacts with violence... even violence towards the wall.

You are lucky to have a second chance with her. Don't mess it up and pressure her. Just tell her you love her and you will be working on your issues when she has more time to spend with you. Of course you don't wait forever but you'll have a better idea of her intentions in a few months probably.

Good luck.

but I don't know she wants a 2 yrs avo but getting ma lawer to do it 6months and I don't know I can't just wait... I'm scared to lose her every 1 can see it she can too what yea... I speak wif her friends n all to see how she is I get her friends to give ma letters n all... but yea she doesn't know if she wants to be wif me... she's saying time will tell?? I want to marry her... =(

Forget it, seriously, forget her. Yeah I know, but she is just putting you off. She is so through with you. Come on guy, no female that loves you would tell you to wait, and if you don't, she won't come back.

I got news for you, she ain't coming back.

Yea man... Your on the back burner, the last resort. Do you really want that for yourself? To me it sounds like she just wants you there while giving her the time she needs to be fully over you while still having access to your emotions.

Also stop giving her letters and stuff... You want to break contact 100% for a while(months) and during that time change yourself to be a better man in every aspect that you can think of. So when you meet back up finally you can get some WOW effect and she just might take you back but I would see this as your only hope.

I have never believed in breaks or making people wait. Maybe it works for people but that would never work for me. If I love someone and want to be with him then I'm with him and we work through our differences.

Her close friend told me that gve it time just wait... can't just let go... so yea... but how long do I need to wait?

10 seconds, no more than 15. Don't listen to her friends.

Listen dude. Once it's over and it is over! This girl has been thinking about it for a while and the signs were there, you just refused to see it. If you could not get her to stay with you when she was with you for over 2 years, what makes you believe she will come back to you, because she loves you? She fell out of love men and her interest has gone down the hill. Now let that sink! Your only option is to disappear and leave with some diginity. Also cut all forms of communication, including talking to hear friends. MOVE ON.

Other day she saw me after 2months and she msged what your doing I did what you guys said don't speak to her and all and she called and all and she told me she's having her last yr of skool so yea she said I want you to leave me alone till I'm ready she said she's trying to get over sum things that in her family and issues and all but I'm not trying to get over u... even if I move to another country your always going to be der, I'm not telling you to hate me so don't... just listen to meee... ( plus my reiligion if you sleep wif that girl and parents found out means ull end up marryin each other... ) and we both lost our virginity to each other... so this changes the topic abit?:confused::confused:

So she's supposed to do as she likes. Go 'find herself' and your supposed to wait patiently in the background, every ready to pick her up and let her drop you again??

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

I understand that losing your virginity, whatever religion you choose to follow, is a big deal but it's gone now and it's never coming back. That is not and never should be a reason to be with someone.

MOVE ON

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( plus my religion if u sleep with that girl and parents found out means you'll end up marrying each other... ) and we both lost our virginity to each other... so this changes the topic a bit?:confused::confused:

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That's all well, and good, but you will never get her to see that, so forget it, get over it, and move on.

Sorry for your loss.