My boyfriend recently broke up with me after 3 and a half years, and his reason was " he only thought of me as a good friend" but now he's acting reallly angry toward me, and its only been a month and he's going out clubbing and things. He said he's moving on but it isn't fast. But then he says I have to take control of the situations we encounter. He put his status on Facebook as "jsut can't get through" but the thing is two days before we broke up everything was fine he was flirting with me calling me his mrs. so I just don't know what to do I have messaged him doing the whole I love you thing getting up set at him, but I don't think it matters. Should I just move on and try to be friends with him till I'm ready to move on or should I continue trying for him, if so how. He has said that there's still a chance but that's all he has said.

He is playing with your emotions. He doesn't want to be with you, but can't let go and let you be happy. Cut off contact with him. No phone call, texts, emails, etc. If you happen to run into him say hi and keep moving.

I was in a similar relationship I was in it for 5 years my addivce to you, is he's not sure what he wants in life at this time. You should try to be his friend but only you know how you feel and this is a difficult time because in anyway your going to get hurt.He may move on and remain friends. He may even keep you on the leash for when he's ready for that relationship but at this time I would let up leave it alone let him contact you and act as if it doesn't bother you this will cause him to wonder what's going on with you and why aren't you trying harder he may even become mad at you. Just keep to it he may surprise you and open up about what he is really feeling, then you will know if its just a friend type relationship or if it's a worth making a future of relationship. Hope I could help out on this. Best wishes to you.

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Originally Posted by Maddie1234

my boyfriend recently broke up with me after 3 adn a half years, and his reason was " he only thought of me as a good friend" but now hes acting reallly angry toward me, and its only been a month and hes going out clubbing and things. he said hes moving on but it isnt fast. but then he says i have to take control of the situations we encounter. he put his status on facebook as "jsut can't get through" but the thing is two days before we broke up everything was fine he was flirting with me calling me his mrs. so i just dont know what to do i have messaged him doing the whole i love you thing getting up set at him, but i dont think it matters. should i just move on and try to be friends wtih him till im ready to move on or should i continue trying for him, if so how. he has said that theres still a chance but thats all he has said.

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Well after three years he shouldn't say that firstly. Secondly, for him to act angry towards you is a sign of major insecurity and immaturity. If he is going clubbing and other events (probably dating) then he is trying to see what it is that he wants, to detach for a while to see if he still has the same feelings... he is losing control of his feelings and maybe feels like letting you go he will get some control back. It sounds like he does care about you but maybe just needs to find his own way, you both sound young. This could be very intimidating to him since he is so young. I would say just stay friends for the time being and he will come around with his feelings when he is ready since guys have issues with their libeto and feelings. Don't bet on his chance, do your own thing and "jsut have fun" on your Facebook. Be a friend but don't be available all the time... you should take this as a sign of maybe moving on... so move in the right direction... forward.

I would try and get answers that you want about why he's doing this and what's he doing, and why is face book status like that, please cut off all contact especially that face book junk it's no bueno. The answers you seek he doesn't even have the answers to, nor do we...

My best advice to you is move on, cut him off, and stop letting him string you along with his BS sweet talk.

Sounds like he has moved on and by acting angry with you he may not have to feel guilty about dumping you.
Don't ever run behind a guy who treats you with disrespect. If he says he does not want you, take him at his word and leave him alone.
He has moved on, you do the same. Don't allow him to play head games with you.

His actions speak volumes and I think you need to take the hint and leave him alone. Forget friends, as you don't need those types of friends.