Briefly as possible, a woman I was working with, and I were out together, she really made it obvious that she liked me. It even seemed that we were a couple the way she acted. The next day at work we were around each other but didn't say much and then after work we talked and I ask her out. She said okay to some general things later that week but at that point in time we didn't make anything definite because I thought we had time and wanted to plan something. The next day she was really in a bad mood even to the point of being hostile. I thought that something had happened at work so I kind of let it be. The next day she it wasn't any better. She seemed not to want to talk to me. A couple of days later, she quit her job, for other reasons than anything going on with me. I was busy when she was leaving so she waited and as we walked I ask her what she was planning on doing, then said bye, since I didn't think that I would never see her again. The next night I saw her driving and waved, she just frowned at me. I tried to add her on myspace, and she denied me. I haven't tried any further at contact because I am scared of her reaction. The question... if there isn't anything romantic there and I realize it and I accept it, why the hostility, and why wouldn't she want to be friends?

Are you sure that's the whole story? If it is, then there was no reason for her to be rude. Foget her and move on.

Maybe she has mental problems.
i.e. depression, bi-polar.

You were not a couple so don't worry. Nothing lost right? Don't try to make it easy for her.

You did nothing wrong.

If you've really given the whole story, it sounds to me like this gal has something going on that you should probably be thankful you aren't part of. Sounds to me like you're a nice, rational fellow, and you're probably better off without her.

Unless there's more to this story than you've let on. I would say forget her and move on to something else.

There has to be more to the story, doesn't there? Well, I wanted to be friends at first and had no idea of anything more until she seemed to be more interested in than I expected and then she started acting this way and then I started becoming more interested to the extreme... funny how well that works. And I am afraid that I am getting ready for a great big crash. Because, while I appreciate the advice that I need to move on and all that, she has done a number on me I can't ignore. I got to at least be her friend!

If she's done a number on you, don't you think that being her friend will make it worse?

I guess what I want is to hear the words "I just want to be friends." from her. She has never even used the word "friend" in my presence.

Well you probably won't hear her say those words. It seems that she is very inconsiderate of your feelings.

She really hasn't been the FRIENDLY type.

So don't be surprised if those words don't come your way. She refused you as a FRIEND on myspace.

Just back off for a while. I know these things are hard. It is in your best interest to back off.

Uh, yeah, the refusing me as a FRIEND on myspace... that means she really doesn't like me at all, doesn't it?

It means that either she doesn't like you or (more likely) she is playing games. Either way, don't waste your time.

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I got to at least be her friend!

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Take the hint, and leave her alone, before she cusses you out, and makes trouble. Just cause a female flirts doesn't mean she wants your baby, or your friendship. Obviously she wants neither. Drop it.

Yep, Talaniman. I guess the "I gotta at least be her friend" is what I am feeling, but not what I am pursuing. I am leaving her alone. Thanks :-)