I've been with my boyfriend for a while,
I really want to stay with him and I know this sounds shallow but I want my boyfriend to change exterior wise.
He's very handsome and cute but I just can't by past the fact that he has no sense of style and no care in world for it.
Long story short I don't want my boyfriend to look like a bum especially when he the potential to look great.
All I want is for him to care for himself.

:confused:
How do I let him know that I care about the way he looks?
How do I tell him I want him to change?
-[honestly please give me a straight forward opinion_thanxx]

You really can't change someone. This is the real person who he is right now. You may compliment or something and tell him, like when your in a store, this would look really good on him. But believe me, it doesn't work, they don't change, that's the way there use to dressing.. good luck/

Well get that I want him to change crap out of your head

You love someone for who they are

There good points and bad points

If there bad points out do there good.

Then leave them and stop waisting yours and there time.

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Originally Posted by TrueFaith

well get that i want him to change crap out of your head

You love someone for who they are

there good points and bad points

If there bad points out do there good.

Then leave them and stop waisting yours and there time.

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I would just like him look more presentable especially if he's meeting my family

Why not just tell him what yo put here and see how he reacts

You do love someone for who there are its true. However, a relationship is a ongoing process and you can never give up. How long have you guys been together? Maybe your partner is comfortable with you and feels as if he doesn't need to impress you anymore. If I were you, I would tell him when he does look good, or buy him something nice and tell him that he would look great in it! Or just communicate with him and tell him how you feel but in a comforting tone so he accepts your input. Christmas time is coming soon so this is the perfect time for a new wardrobe. Goodluck!

Go shopping with him

I say if you really love him you would love him for everything he is even if he is a bad dresser. My husband has a bad attitude toward a lot of things, he doesn't like holidays he is a modern day grinch but I love him I can not try to change him all I do is let him know we have a son now and that its not about him anymore but about my son. I love him even when he is being a grinch, I just have to overlook the bad things and think of the good things and how good he is to us in every other way.

When it comes to your boyfriend just know that if you like him that is all that matters. You can't change him.

ME

Tell him straight up to dress up for your folks. If he does cool, if not, then either accept him, or dump him.

Not good options, but you can't change people, unless they want to be changed, so ask, but don't waste time, if you don't like the answer you get.