I have been dating my boss for about 6 months now... I have known him for about 4 years or so and we have been great friends for a long time. Our relationship is quite complex because of the situation itself. We don't really go out any where together because if we were to get caught we would both lose our jobs. Therefore we usually just spend time together at home and watch movies... I have just recently graduated university and am currently looking for another job, he is aware of this too! Im sure that if I wasn't working at the same company as he is, that we would have a awesome relationship togther, but unfortunately that's not possible at this time.I really like being with this man. From the first time we kissed it was amazing!! I know at that moment we both felt something special!! I told him that I loved him about a month ago, this was just after we had made love, and he told me he loved me too! However, since then we have not said it or mentioned it to each other at all?? Im kind of hesitent to say I love him because I sometimes feel distance between us. This boss situation basically puts distance in our relationship without our control. I really do care about him and I do want to be with him but sometimes I am not 100% sure? Sometimes I feel like maybe we should call it quits because it is to hard being with him and not being able to give 100% into this relationship. I feel very confused about all of this? I really love him amd want to be with him Im just not sure if this is right??

Once you get another job and are away from him I am sure you will sort your feellings out. Very difficult relationship when you are working in the same company. It is almost like being together 24/7, which isn't good in the first place.

Thanks... but I understand that when I get a new job our relationship will be better than ever! Im wondering now if I should stay with him till then or let it go now and maybe start fresh with him again later down the road. I have mentioned this to him before... a few months ago and he was basically like if that's what you want to do then that's okay with me kind of deal. That kind of made me feel like he doesn't care that much about me but Im not sure?? I kind of just wanted to hear some reassurance from him maybe saying... no I want to be with you! But that wasn't the case...

I think that you should look for a different job asap and see where it goes... I would continue util that time to see him in secret and not force the issue. Something about private relationships are very exciting and may add to the excitement you know have. If you are both single then I don't see that you have anything but time down the road to have the relationship you may want... if its in fact what you both want. Good Luck

Thanks for the different perspective!! It is very exciting but there's also a downfall to the whole secretive nature of our relationship. I am looking for a new job and hope to obtain one soon... Thanks again I appreciate your insight!