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  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:33 PM
    GorgeousAmber
    Thinking about having sex for the first time -WORRIED-
    Well I'm a virgin and I'm worried about having sex , I've been fingered by two guys and both say I'm quite tight , they were only able to fit one finger in and sometimes two but it hurt. I know when I have sex for like the first three times it's REALLY going to kill , but will it hurt my boyfriend penis if I'm that tight? I'm just curious , I'm not really ready for sex right yet but I'd like to understand a bit more.
    Thank you to whomever is able to answer this for me.:)
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:36 PM
    southerngalps

    If you are not ready for sex, you should wait.
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:41 PM
    GorgeousAmber

    Well yea I'm going to wait , my boyfriend is just curious on the fact for when I'm ready and it's a good time if it'll hurt him as well.
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:43 PM
    southerngalps

    well, it's good that you are going to wait.

    In any case, I don't think he should be worried.
    It's not like you will damage it.

    No matter what, remember you should wait until you are ready ;)
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:44 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by southerngalps View Post
    you should wait until you are ready ;)

    SG is right, you should wait until you are ready for a baby.
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:45 PM
    GorgeousAmber

    Yeah I know :)
    A lot of girls my age are giving it away WAY to quickly , I just want to find that right guy , probably sounds funny since I'm only nearly 16. But I think it'll be all the better if I wait for the guy who won't just toss me ,
    But thanks for your help :)
    Take care.
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:46 PM
    GorgeousAmber
    P.s
    J_9 , I never said anything about a baby , I am DEFINITELY not ready for that.. lol
    So no worried towards that.
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:47 PM
    southerngalps
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GorgeousAmber View Post
    but i think it'll be all the better if i wait for the guy who wont just toss me


    Very smart girl! That is the way to think about this situation. Be strong!
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:53 PM
    southerngalps
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GorgeousAmber View Post
    P.s
    J_9 , i never said anything about a baby , i am DEFINITELY not ready for that .. lol
    so no worried towards that.

    She meant this as that is what will happen if you have sex ;)
  • Nov 28, 2008, 09:54 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by GorgeousAmber View Post
    P.s
    J_9 , i never said anything about a baby , i am DEFINITELY not ready for that .. lol
    so no worried towards that.

    You see, sex = babies. If you are not ready to be a mother, you are not ready for sex.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 07:17 AM
    GorgeousAmber

    Yes , I realize how sex= Babies , but I have also thought ahead of time , my mother has put be on birth control for 5 months now and I do know about condoms and the day after pill.
    thank you for your concern and help towards this situation . :)
  • Jul 31, 2009, 10:43 AM
    chocolatesoup95
    Don't worry about being tight, this just means that you were not relaxed enough. Because you are a virgin, your vagina is not used to being handled, which means it will probably try to stop being handled. When it comes to your first time, all you need to do is just relax and a HUGE tip is make sure that you are comfortable and wet before he enters you.

    And you're saying that you know it will hurt ? That's not true, it may hurt but it equally may not hurt. Like I'd said before make sure you are relaxed, comfortable and wet and this will increase the chances of it not hurting.

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