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  • Nov 26, 2008, 01:15 AM
    maria39208
    My in laws Took our kids!
    Me, & my husband is still married. We have 5 kids. They are all with husband's sorry family. Our parental rights were taken away from us with the last 3. NOTHING to do with us. And, now they are all being s toward us, & they don't want us coming around them, & they don't want them to know who we are. It is all a LONNNGGGG story. And, we believe something is NOT right cause of how it all went..
    We NEED to know, what we can do to get them back without a lot of drama.
    THe first two was not legal. She went back on our agreement that we WOULD get them back that same year when we got on our feet.
    HELP!!
  • Nov 26, 2008, 05:33 AM
    stevetcg

    If it wasn't done through a court, they have to give them back or face criminal charges. If they were taken by the court, get a lawyer and go back to court.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 08:19 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maria39208 View Post
    Me, & my husband is still married. We have 5 kids. They are all with husband's sorry family. Our parental rights were taken away from us with the last 3. NOTHING to do with us. And, now they are all being s toward us, & they don't want us coming around them, & they don't want them to know who we are. It is all a LONNNGGGG story. And, we believe something is NOT right cause of how it all went..
    We NEED to know, what we can do to get them back without alot of drama.
    THe first two was not legal. She went back on our agreement that we WOULD get them back that same year when we got on our feet.
    HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



    Who suspended or terminated your parental rights to all of the children?
  • Nov 26, 2008, 08:41 AM
    stinawords

    If a judge terminated your rights then you can't get them back. How did they gain the oldest two? It is likely that you will have to go to court to get the oldest two back. How old are they?
  • Nov 26, 2008, 12:54 PM
    maria39208
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Who suspended or terminated your parental rights to all of the children?

    The last three were taken by DHS cause someone called to start stuff. And, & the person from DHS beegged the judge to let his aunt have COdy after they had gotten our twins.
    Something is NOT right with the way those two cases went.
    But the first two was not legally taken. THey don't want us around them, they don't want them to know who we are, or anything.
    And, the last one was taken from us in 1999. But, I VOW we WILL get them back in 2009. THank you.
    Maria
  • Nov 26, 2008, 12:58 PM
    maria39208
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Who suspended or terminated your parental rights to all of the children?

    Well, the judge unvolentarily took our rights away with our last three. BUt the whole thing with our first two was NOT legal. We just found out the HARD way that you can't even trust your family.
    THank you,
    Maria
  • Nov 26, 2008, 01:04 PM
    stinawords

    As I said the judge terminated your rights to the last three so you are completley done with them. The older two you will have to go to court to get custody back being that you waited way too long to just do it the simple way. Have the older two been living there for the last nine years!? I ask again how old are thery?
  • Nov 26, 2008, 01:23 PM
    maria39208
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stinawords View Post
    As I said the judge terminated your rights to the last three so you are completley done with them. The older two you will have to go to court to get custody back being that you waited way too long to just do it the simple way. Have the older two been living there for the last nine years!?! I ask again how old are thery?

    The oldest one turned 16 last month.
    The judge told us in court that we can always go to supreme court.
    BUt something is not right with the whole thing.
    A friend of mine knows the whole story, & they say sounds to them that there were some illegal stuff done from his family's side, & if there was, THEY are in HUGE trouble.
    Thank you.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 02:20 PM
    stinawords

    At sixteen they can testify in court as to where they want to live. The problem that I see in this situation isn't that something was done illigally in 99 but that you waited waaaaay too long to do anything about it. Not saying that it is absolutely impossible just going to make it harder for a judge (especially in the supreme court) to deem you responsible enough to have your children back. You will need a lawyer for this.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 02:43 PM
    Justwantfair

    If there was "illegal" stuff done than a Civil Rights attorney may be able to help you, but since you aren't giving us the whole story there isn't anyway for us to know how you should get your two oldest children back and how are we to know that DHS didn't have a reason to take your children away from you?
  • Nov 26, 2008, 02:55 PM
    Lowtax4eva

    The is a large part of this story missing, there is no way you accepted this for 9 years, you say you recently got back on your feet, what was the reason they were taken away in the first place.

    It's really up to the courts now, get an attorney if you can, though you don't need one in family courts usually.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 03:03 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maria39208 View Post
    The oldest one turned 16 last month.
    The judge told us in court that we can always go to supreme court.
    BUt something is not right with the whole thing.
    A friend of mine knows the whole story, & they say sounds to them that there were some illiegal stuff done from his family's side, & if there was, THEY are in HUGE trouble.
    Thank you.


    What kind of "illegal" stuff? And what can you prove? Family Court actually has investigators - and I realize people have had terrible, unfair experiences - and I still don't understand why/how you lost custody. Unless your friend (who knows the whole story) is an Attorney I suspect her advice is worth nothing. And just who/what/how does the "huge" trouble involve? Criminal charges?

    Everyone who loses custody accuses the other side of some sort of illegality or unfairness; everyone who is awarded custody claims the law acted in the correct manner. Same with divorces.

    And someone is going to say this. It might as well be me. I don't know what happened. I don't know how it happened. I don't now the reasoning behind it but if someone took my kids it most certainly wouldn't occur to me to wait 9 years to get them back. People post on this board when the father is one day late returning the kids - 9 years?
  • Nov 26, 2008, 03:29 PM
    maria39208
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    What kind of "illegal" stuff? And what can you prove? Family Court actually has investigators - and I realize people have had terrible, unfair experiences - and I still don't understand why/how you lost custody. Unless your friend (who knows the whole story) is an Attorney I suspect her advice is worth nothing. And just who/what/how does the "huge" trouble involve? Criminal charges?

    Everyone who loses custody accuses the other side of some sort of illegality or unfairness; everyone who is awarded custody claims the law acted in the correct manner. Same with divorces.

    And someone is going to say this. It might as well be me. I don't know what happened. I don't know how it happened. I don't now the reasoning behind it but if someone took my kids it most certainly wouldn't occur to me to wait 9 years to get them back. People post on this board when the father is one day late returning the kids - 9 years?

    Well, it is a LONNNNGGGGG story, & there was NO reason for them to take them. Some people just don't want to believe that some "familys" is THAT cruel, & heartless..
    I am thinking about writing online about our story. And, when I do start it, I will put a link to it on here.

    The reason it has been this long is, after Cody was taken, & the sorry way his family is acting toward us, we just gave up for a while cause it seemed that we can have them but we couldn't KEEP them cause his family, & some other people WILL NOT LEAVE US ALONE, & LET US BE HAPPY!

    BUt, lately we figured out some things about it, & talked to lawyers to get opinions, & from what we found out... his family is in BIGGGG TROUBBLLE!!

    And, I have one qustion, if nothing illegal happened from their end, then WHY don't they want us to come around them? See what I mean?

    And, the DHS SUSSSSKKKKSSSSS!!

    I just believe the way the whole thing went is just corrupted, wrong, stupid, &...

    I VOW WE WILL GET THEM BACK IN 2009!!

    Thank you,
    Maria
  • Nov 26, 2008, 03:32 PM
    maria39208
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maria39208 View Post
    Well, it is a LONNNNGGGGG story, & there was NO reason for them to take them. Some people just don't want to believe that some "familys" is THAT cruel, & heartless..
    I am thinking about writing online about our story. And, when I do start it, I will put a link to it on here.

    The reason it has been this long is, after Cody was taken, & the sorry way his family is acting toward us, we just gave up for a while cause it seemed that we can have them but we couldn't KEEP them cause his family, & some other people WILL NOT LEAVE US ALONE, & LET US BE HAPPY!!

    BUt, lately we figured out some things about it, & talked to lawyers to get opinions, & from what we found out....his family is in BIGGGG TROUBBLLE!!!!

    And, I have one qustion, if nothing illegal happened from their end, then WHY don't they want us to come around them? See what I mean?

    And, the DHS SUSSSSKKKKSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I just believe the way the whole thing went is just corrupted, wrong, stupid, &.....

    I VOW WE WILL GET THEM BACK IN 2009 !!!!!!!!!

    Thank you,
    Maria

    And, the illegal stuff I am referring to is, forgering our name on papers, lying, anything.

    And, my husband is the black sheep of his family so... you get the idea.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 03:58 PM
    stinawords

    Well please come back to let us know how it turns out after your court date.

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