Well I dated this girl who I was friends with at first. We dated for 3 months and we never had any arguments or anything. We were taking things slow and all I ever did was hug her and hold her hand. The last time we hung out before we broke up I kissed her. She left that night and I was extremely happy I looked at it as a new begging where I can start being a better boyfriend and doing things that I've been thinking about but never did (none that were too sexual just things like putting my arm around her and telling her I loved her). That night she talked to me online and told me that so much time has passed since we started dating and she has became unsure if she likes me as a best friend or more then that and she is confused about what is going on with her. But then from there she changed it too she thinks she loves me too much and needs to figure out where she is in life and if she can handle a relationship at this stage in her life. It is now three months later and were still friends but not as good as we were when we first broke up. This is because until now I misinterpreted the reason that she broke up with me and did some things that could make our friendship awkward. I still really like her but I value our friendship greatly, I feel that me misinterpreting what was going on has made us go further apart. I understand that us dating would be a bad idea at this point in time and I also am sort of moving on from that relationship but I think that I have put the two of us under a lot of emotional distress and possibly ruined a great friendship. What do you think I can do to get our friendship back to the way it was?

First, what did you do?

She loved you too much, so she broke up with you? Wow! Reminds me of a friend who married her live-in lover so she could divorce him and get rid of him permanently...

I think you will not be able to salvage this friendship. It is best to move on.

Yeah man don't bother being friends.

Im sorry for laughing But just listen to how stupid this sounds OK.. from another person..

Sometimes we really need to see how stupid things are OK. Here goes


Hunny look thanks for brithday card.. its just look im not sure about us.. its just.. I think I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!. that i have to let you go.. its just.. to much love!

HA! We don't say that to our mothers do we?

Look mom! I love the socks off you. But I'm kicking you out the house..

(Mom)---But why son?
(Son)-- Well I love you too much we can't have that!
(Mom) no I understand I was going to do the same thing to you.. guess you beat me to it




Yeah really leave this chick :) and move on with your life

You didn't move fast enough. Three months, and one kiss? Of course she saw you as a friend. Friends sit around and hang out. Lovers have intimacy. Learn to move faster and you should do better next time.

I disagree about moving faster! What is that going to prove? That you don't want to take time to get to know someone first? Uh huh! Bad idea to become friends first and develop trust and try to gain respect? I think 3 months is a fine amount of time to hang out and get to know each other. It sure as heck is better than jumping in the sack a day, week, or month after meeting! People wonder why relationships don't last? Hmmm!

I agree that the "I think I love too much" is a line of bull! That is a lame line, and she probably didn't want to hurt you by saying... "I'm just really not all that into you"... "but I would like to keep you around just in case." This has "I'm going to end up hurting you" written all over it!

Your situation is bad. But you seriously need to do yourself the favor and move on...

The line she fed you was bs... most def!

I guess you could have moved a bit faster, but I do agree with starbuck... it was a good idea to take time to get to know her first and then see how it went.

But it did most likely create a friendsship based thing and not an attraction based thing.

She doesn't know what she wants in her life. That's all you need to know. You need to drop her and find someone else. She will never know what she wants with you. She will keep you in limbo, keep you wondering and confused, until she figures it out, which will be never. And chances are when she does figure things out, after you wait for god knows how long, you will end up with the short end of the deal.

One thing is certain, if she wanted you... she would have not fed you this BS excuse to break things off.

Move on!!! Don't wait around for a confused female! You will be hurt in the end if you do!!

The good thing about losing a friend, you can get more. Don't push it!

Friends will come, and go through out your life, so don't think you need to fix this.

Let time, and life, do it for you. So do nothing about this except to move forward.