Ask Me Help Desk - Caught Shoplifting now awaiting for report from I/O.

I was caught shofting recently for a $5 item. But previously I also patron the same shop and shop lift a $200 item. And I have admit guilty for this 2 case. But I did it out of folly. Out of killoing my stress and for the high. I did not know whatI was doing when I was in the shop. I just think to walk off something and that it. And there I was caught. Now I am really really very remorseful. I just cannot sleep, eat or live properly since then. I just cried whenever I am alone now. I have seen a lawyer yesterday with my younger sis helping me out and hiding all this from my family members. Next Friday I need to report to police station for my final decision. Whether they would give me a chance for 1st offender case or they will charge me. I am very confused, depressed and liveless now. I even think of ending my life yesterday. But the sight of my partner just came to my mind and I stop at the parapet. I have been getting encouragement from my sister and my partner now. But I just do not know how long I can withstand this pressure. Today I report back to office acting like nothing have happen yet.
I know I did all this out of folly... and now is the consequence to face. My mind just drew acrossed... what if it is a jail sentence. I am doomed. My heart pounds hard when I am typing this. What can I do?? I need help now. In my mind... I told myself never never to do it again!! But will I get the chance to repent. I know now no matter how much tears you flow out... it is of no use. But thinking positive that I have acquired a lawyer to help me. And I have plead for repentance with my I/O. She told me in the room... I will see what I can do,. but if I give you a chance You make sure you willnever do it again! I went to prayer with my partner yesterday... felt so much better... we both cried that I look so worn out now. I usually don't smoke... but yesterday took a few puff and felt abit better in my mental state... so I bought a few packs in my bags to curb with the pressure now. I am lost... I keep thinking of ending my life is the solution now. I have shame everyone around me. Sadden and troubled everyone.

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Originally Posted by runtime

I was caught shofting recently for a $5 item. But previously I also patron the same shop and shop lift a $200 item. And I have admit guilty for this 2 case. But i did it out of folly. Out of killoing my stress and for the high. I did not know whatI was doing when I was in the shop. I just think to walk off something and that it. And there I was caught. Now I am really really very remorseful. I just cannot sleep, eat or live properly since then. I just cried whenever i am alone now. I have seen a lawyer yesterday with my younger sis helping me out and hiding all this from my family members. Next friday I need to report to police station for my final decision. Whether they would give me a chance for 1st offender case or they will charge me. I am very confused, depressed and liveless now. I even think of ending my life yesterday. But the sight of my partner just came to my mind and I stop at the parapet. I have been getting encouragement from my sister and my partner now. But I just do not know how long i can withstand this pressure. Today I report back to office acting like nothing have happen yet.
I know I did all this out of folly...and now is the consequence to face. My mind just drew acrossed...what if it is a jail sentence. I am doomed. My heart pounds hard when i am typing this. What can I do?!?!?! I need help now. In my mind....i told myself never never to do it again!!!!!!!!!!! But will I get the chance to repent. I know now no matter how much tears you flow out...it is of no use. But thinking positive that I have acquired a lawyer to help me. And I have plead for repentence with my I/O. She told me in the room....I will see what I can do,...but if i give you a chance You make sure you willnever do it again! I went to prayer with my partner yesterday....felt so much better.....we both cried that I look so worn out now. I usually don't smoke...but yesterday took a few puff and felt abit better in my mental state....so I bought a few packs in my bags to curb with the pressure now. I am lost... I keep thinking of ending my life is the solution now. I have shame everyone around me. Sadden and troubled everyone.

Where are you? What country?

You have an Attorney - he/she knows the laws and the climate of the Court where you are. Anything posted here is simply a guess.

I'm not really sure if that answers your question because I'm not sure what your question is.

If you are considering suicide over all of this you must see a Physician or a mental health counsellor.

So you stole a few things, you get a punishment and go on with your life, lesson learned
*** and learn not to confess to anything but talk with your attorney first.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Where are you? What country?

You have an Attorney - he/she knows the laws and the climate of the Court where you are. Anything posted here is simply a guess.

I'm not really sure if that answers your question because I'm not sure what your question is.

If you are considering suicide over all of this you must see a Physician or a mental health counsellor.

I am in Singapore. Age 33yrs old and working as a manager. Now I am totally lost. I feel very remorseful. I dun want to see everyone around me to be sad and shamed them. I feel very very terrible. Nothing can describe that feeling now. It just like the heart stop pumping every seconds and pump back again.. . And my mind is empty but at times runs a lot of images about anything.. .

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Originally Posted by runtime

I am in Singapore. Age 33yrs old and working as a manager. Now I am totally lost. I feel very remorseful. I dun want to see everyone around me to be sad and shamed them. I feel very very terrible. Nothing can decribe that feeling now. It just like the heart stop pumping every seconds and pump back again . . . and my mind is empty but at times runs alot of images about anything . . .

You are on a legal board - these questions are best posted on a mental health board.

I am just asking... will it be a fine case or come with a jail sentences..? I am very very worried. I hope it can be a fine case and I really will learnt my lesson...

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I am just asking...will it be a fine case or come with a jail sentences . . ??? I am very very worried. I hope it can be a fine case and I really will learnt my lesson.....

Please read my earlier answer - you are obviously very upset, talking about suicide. The person to give you ACCURATE legal information is your Attorney, not strangers on this site who are concerned about saying something that will push you over the edge.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Please read my earlier answer - you are obviously very upset, talking about suicide. The person to give you ACCURATE legal information is your Attorney, not strangers on this site who are concerned about saying something that will push you over the edge.

Thanks so much. I really dun know. I am lost I am confused and illusioned. I am tearing apart.. . I dun find a meaning now...

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Please read my earlier answer - you are obviously very upset, talking about suicide. The person to give you ACCURATE legal information is your Attorney, not strangers on this site who are concerned about saying something that will push you over the edge.

But do I commit to Chpt 380? And thief in dwelling? I feel very terrible. I just cannot eat and sleep since it happen.. . and I guess it will go on until fri ( or at least till the sentence end). If this goes on and on.. . I don't know when I will pull the plug off.

Although I have had a difficult time understanding your wording,I have seen the ideas you are expressing.

I can not tell you the laws in your country,your LAWYER has to explain these to you.

My interest lies in the wording such as,"If this goes on and on...i dunno when i will pull the plug off."

What does this mean?

I understand you feel bad for getting caught.

I understand you can't sleep or eat like normal.

We have an old saying,"Do the crime,do the time"

If you did a bad thing,you need to be taught a lesson so you don't do it again.

The courts here in the USA,don't really care if a person says they 'feel bad and can't sleep or eat' That's called shame,and you should have shame!

Telling us you will never do this again won't help you over there in Singapore,sorry we don't judge you,the courts in your country do.

If you are feeling like hurting yourself,we can discuss this.I hope you don't feel this way,It isn't something to take your life over.

KBC

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Originally Posted by KBC

Although I have had a difficult time understanding your wording,I have seen the ideas you are expressing.

I can not tell you the laws in your country,your LAWYER has to explain these to you.

My interest lies in the wording such as,"If this goes on and on...i dunno when i will pull the plug off."

What does this mean?

I understand you feel bad for getting caught.

I understand you can't sleep or eat like normal.

We have an old saying,"Do the crime,do the time"

If you did a bad thing,you need to be taught a lesson so you don't do it again.

The courts here in the USA,don't really care if a person says they 'feel bad and can't sleep or eat' That's called shame,and you should have shame!

Telling us you will never do this again won't help you over there in Singapore,sorry we don't judge you,the courts in your country do.

If you are feeling like hurting yourself,we can discuss this.I hope you don't feel this way,It isn't something to take your life over.

KBC

I really don't know. I dun want to hurt anyone beside me... but yet I dun want to be punish too harsely for something like that. I know it is wrong. But I know it too late now. But I am ready to repent my way seriously. I tremble and fear now and then. I am afraid that if I keep thinking it over and over again... I will pull off the plug to live. I really hope for a 2nd chance. A chance to show that I will repent. I will... I didn't know why I do it. Thinking it all over again.. . Seriously I don't know what the hell I did it for. My mind was blank at that time... Please forgive me. I am lost... I keeep dwelling in sorrow... I dun know what is the future after next Friday now. Everything is what it is now... but coming 5th... I hope that things will be back to normal for me and I will start over a new leaf... I know is too late to say all this... I am willing to turn over a new leaf... I will... I will... but I cannot focus on anything now.. . I just cried half way working... and wake up in the middle of the night.. .

Telling ME how you will turn over the new leaf... I CANNOT FORGIVE YOU, YOU NEED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF!

Do you understand?

Telling others your repentant isn't going to relieve you of this burden.

Can you change what has happened? NO

Can you stop thinking of this problem? NO,not yet.

What will worrying about the court date and sentencing do besides make you even more upset.

Stop the projection (looking into the future).Start thinking of how you are going to be a better person when this is over.

I am charge with Cap 380-224. What does that means now??

I can't tell,I am not a lawyer,you need to ask your lawyer.

Hi Runtime...

May I know your verdict? Please?. m facing the same situation as yours... feeling painful and angry about myself... will need to report to police station next week... very worry about the outcome... so far no court date is given to me yet... need your answer please... really hope is you can hear me out...