To set the scene, I am a male in my 40's. The woman ('X') in question is also in her 40's, as is her partner ('Q') and he too is in his 40's, so this is not teenage crush scenario. I have know the woman for years and have had a crush on her for at least 10 years! Her partner moved in with her a few years ago, and she recently asked him to marry her. He has also become a good friend.
The problem I have though is that some while ago at a night out, he was sitting at a table with a group of his friends when I arrived with my then wife. When 'X' arrived with her (female) friend, rather than sit with her partner, her and her friend sat next to me all night. During the evening, I took my wife home, but I went back to the event. On arrival, 'X' saw me, called out my name and gave me a big hug. She spent most of the rest of the evening talking to me and even apologised for getting a bit heavy. She later asked me for a dance to which she was still chatting away.
At the end of another night out she came up to me and gave me another hug and a kiss (on the neck).
As time has gone by, I have regulary popped round for a coffee and a blether whether her partner has been in or out. We even started going for walks, but this was stopped by her, and her partner stopped going round when he was out! Now though I am told I can go round anytime, but I refrain from going to see her too often in case a/ she gets fed up with me, and b/ she is driving me crazy. Now they are supposed to be getting married. Where do I stand? Any ideas or suggestions anyone? HELP>