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  • Nov 25, 2008, 03:23 AM
    baho
    Need info on missing grandfather.
    When my dad was younger his father went "missing". That is all I know, he went missing from somewhere in northern Indiana gary/chesterton area. I want to know if there are any web sites I can find out more details of the case from. Or is this something I can access at the police department. My dad is a vietnam war vet, with many emotional issues. He will not talk about his father hardly at all. I want to find out more information so my dad can finally have peace.
  • Nov 25, 2008, 07:20 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by baho View Post
    When my dad was younger his father went "missing". That is all I know, he went missing from somewhere in northern indiana gary/chesterton area. I want to know if there are any web sites i can find out more details of the case from. Or is this something I can access at the police department. My dad is a vietnam war vet, with many emotional issues. He will not talk about his father hardly at all. I want to find out more information so my dad can finally have peace.


    At one time the VA had a registry for Veterans for children looking for parents and parents looking for children - it was totally voluntary on either side, same as the adoption registries. I have no idea if it still exists.

    Zabasearch is a site; peoplefinder is a site. Keep in mind that the information may not be correct or complete.

    The Police will not help you find missing persons.
  • Nov 25, 2008, 07:38 AM
    J_9
    Let me also mention that if your father does not want to talk about his father, maybe you should not force the issue.

    It is possible you want him to have closure, but maybe he already does. Or could it be that YOU want closure?

    This is something your father should research if and when he wants to.
  • Nov 25, 2008, 04:29 PM
    baho

    I don't think I stated enough information in my previous post. There were police reports filed, and searches done. My grandfather was a career Army man, and was still enlisted when he went missing. He had just gone through a divorce, and simply vanished. The VA never heard from him, he never reported for duty again, and his pension has never been collected or inquired about.

    Also I am not trying to force my father to open up about it, but when he is in and out of psychaitric care facilities due to severe PTSD, not only from the war but also from losing his father. He has hallucanations about what has happened to his father, and it was the recommendation of his doctor that I find out any information that might be useful in his therapy. So I am not forcing him to relive his memories, but you try having a father that can not even be a dad or grand dad to his two beautiful granddaughters. I am simply doing everything in my power to find out anything I can to help him.

    I would also like to know for my own knowledge. I want my kids to know where they came from.

    As far as the VA registry and that site I will try them thanks a bunch !
  • Nov 25, 2008, 05:57 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by baho View Post
    I don't think I stated enough information in my previous post. There were police reports filed, and searches done. My grandfather was a career Army man, and was still enlisted when he went missing. He had just gone through a divorce, and simply vanished. The VA never heard from him, he never reported for duty again, and his pension has never been collected or inquired about.

    Also I am not trying to force my father to open up about it, but when he is in and out of psychaitric care facilities due to severe PTSD, not only from the war but also from losing his father. He has hallucanations about what has happened to his father, and it was the recommendation of his doctor that I find out any information that might be useful in his therapy. So I am not forcing him to relive his memories, but you try having a father that can not even be a dad or grand dad to his two beautiful granddaughters. I am simply doing everything in my power to find out anything I can to help him.

    I would also like to know for my own knowledge. I want my kids to know where they came from.

    As far as the VA registry and that site I will try them thanks a bunch !


    I'd hire an Attorney and gain access to the military files on your Grandfather - if you can prove a need, you can get them. Doctors' recommendations go a long way. You may find a clue in there.

    If this is as critical to you as you indicate - and critical to your father's mental health - hire a Licensed Private Investigator and let him/her use his/her resources.

    If your Grandfather simply vanished and the military couldn't find him, I doubt Zabasearch or any other on line site has him listed.
  • Nov 25, 2008, 07:29 PM
    baho

    Thank you! Do you know if there are any resources out there to help with funding for this? I know both attorneys and private investigators can be very expensive? I am a nurse that just went back to college so even though I have money, I do not have that kind of money.
  • Nov 26, 2008, 04:21 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by baho View Post
    Thank you! Do you know if there are any resources out there to help with funding for this? I know both attorneys and private investigators can be very expensive? I am a nurse that just went back to college so even though I have money, I do not have that kind of money.


    No, there is no funding/there are no resources available to pay Attorneys and investigators when parties are trying to find each other.

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