I met a guy online and he lives far away from me. We have been talking on the phone for almost 3 months. We met for the first time and we had a really good time together but, he said we had no chemistry sexually. He stated that we were too alike and opposites attract. But every thing else was great. He said that we didn't have that passion for each other and he thinks we should maybe be friends instead. He still tells me he loves me and is willing to try things out but maybe I should get some opinions on what other people think about this matter. He is a latin man and I am an african american american woman do you think his culture has anything to do with this? Do you think this will work for us or not? We still talk everyday 3 times a day and can't go a day without talking I'm confused with him.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation! It sounds very frustrating!

But reading your post I kind of got a feeling that he is stringing you along. When he said he'd like to try things out... did he mean try to make a relationship work?

If you're okay with just being friends than you should do that and maybe lower your expectations with him, i.e. do not expect it to evolve into a relationship, otherwise I would advice you to consider dropping the whole thing.

Good luck!

People online tend to be different then they are trully are in person. I think after he met you he determined you were not who you thought you were.

I have a problem with the fact that you have only known each other over the phone for three months, have only met once, and he says that he loves you. Did you sleep with him upon your first encounter? I have a feeling you did, otherwise how would he know you didn't have sexual chemisty.

To me this has bad news written all over it. If you want to remain cyber friends, then fine. But other than that, I would try and meet people the traditional way. Face to face, in your own area, and then go on real dates.

When someone tells you something like about how they feel, especially if you don't know them that well in person, believe them. They know themselves better than you do. You never know who is at the other end of that keyboard.

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Do you think this will work for us or not?

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He has already said there was no chance of anything but friends.

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We still talk everyday 3 times a day and can't go a day without talking I'm confused with him.

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You are way to available and don't seem to understand he said friends. I think your hope for more is confusing you, not him.

Back off until you can see things a lot more clearly.